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Friday, August 21, 2015

Recently I heard a comment "if you were a good Christian, you would"...and the person went on to express her point. It made me look at several things..,,,and most not related to my religion.
We live in a society that has developed the habit of extreme opinions. We seem to be monitoring everything from entertainment to personalities and declaring that something is inappropriate if it does not meet our individual standards of behavior and choice. Because of my personal fundamentalist Christian convictions, there are several areas that I live according to Biblical instructions, but honestly, I work on not looking at other people though my extreme lenses. One of the areas that the initial statement got me to consider was my health. How many times has a person who appears to be an average size looked at an obviously overweight person and stated "if you were really serious about losing weight you (would or wouldn't) do ....." .
There's an old proverb that warns us that we do not know a man until we've walked in his moccasins. We all have opinions based on our life experiences. I eat for any excuse and any reason...celebration, grief, boredom, habit, impulse, anger, for health, for fellowship, and for no reason at all. For a person who is addicted to cigarettes instead of food, it's hard to describe the eating habit. I can look at the smoker and declare "why do you want to suck poison down into your lungs?" and they can look at me and declare, "I don't understand your attachment to food!" Another old saying is that each man has his poison. A man can live (and more healthily) without tobacco intake, but that same man HAS to have food to live. I saw a program on a woman who weighed over 600 pounds the other day and she went on 700 calories a day...supposedly. Neighbors brought her food and she ate the diet food as well....in less than a year, she was up to about 700 pounds. She cried and declared she was doing her best and wanted to be healthy but it was so hard. I can sit here at my desk and critique her documented behavior and brag on my fiber one bar for breakfast and 300 calorie lunch and unsweetened tea and coffee and discuss all the work I do in the yard and all my busy-ness...but the only difference between that sister and me is 300 pounds. I have every excuse and my critics see those excuses and aren't afraid to announce them.
If I were serious about losing weight...what would I do differently than I'm doing now. Why do I want or even need to lose weight? I have been a nurse for over 35 years and know about every pro and con there is to good health. I know what to do. If I were serious....doesn't THAT sound familiar.
So for now, I have to rethink what I'm doing and why. I can't aim for this goal just for someone else. I'm seeing physical improvement since going back on medication, but I want more...or to develop more commitment. I remember when I first started that I mapped out a goal and a plan of action..so this coming week..that's my focus. Starting over. I should be 140 pounds right now with all the years of articles and support that I've gleaned from SP...but I'm not. tomorrow's another day.
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    it is a battle.
    2119 days ago
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    I agree.
    And yet there is so much to consider. I have PCOS, my GYN says for me to lose a pound is like another person with out PCOS losing 3 pounds. (our bodies are not all the same) I get frustrated. I "should" weigh 150 after 2 years here. But I am "only" down 29 pounds.
    Those 29 pounds have made a difference. If I lose my support from SP. I will gain that weight back. I won't care anymore.
    And that is much worse.
    So I think I'm doing great. ;o)
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    2125 days ago
    Thank you so much for this blog. I fall into the trap of comparison and judgment constantly, while I yo-yo back and forth between the same 5 or 6 pounds. I recently became the leader of our small weight loss group. I sit in front and read them articles about all the "shoulds" but fail to model the behaviors with consistency myself. I too should have been at goal weight long before now, but I can give you a long list of excuses, calling frequently on the grief crutch. I'm declaring a turn-about right now!
    2125 days ago
  • KAREN608
    I suppose you could have quoted the scripture of first getting the plank out of your own eye before getting the speck out of mine...! Or the one about our words being full of kindness or what ever it says, my mind is shot, sinus infection today, and dizziness.

    So far I have been spared many comments. I have enough on my mind as is. I did not gain my weight loss back but I know full well how easy it is to revert to my old ways, so I understand why you did. I don't have access to junk food/ a cook... so this really helped me during this trying time since July 2nd. God bless you and keep you.
    2125 days ago
    I've been making some of the same observations and it has motivated me to reflect on how I might be guilty of being critical of others who are weak in my areas of strength. I don't like the feeling of alienation that comes with such criticism, whether it comes from within or without.

    I'm glad the medication seems to be helping you and that you are making some new goals for yourself. I can relate to the "I should be 140 lbs" statement. Yes--me too.

    BTW, I'm enjoying your book. Only to Chapter 3 so far, but we're camping and I only have bits of time to read from my phone.
    2125 days ago
    You can do this my friend. I know that you can. I love & admire you. You are in my prayers.
    2125 days ago
  • CARO488
    I like your attitude. I know that it's up to me, and I alone have to change my behavior.

    Thanks for stating this so clearly.

    Also, "Christians" are not supposed to judge, much less drop a bunch of
    "shoulds" on people who haven't asked their opinion.

    Keep strong!
    hugs, Caro
    2125 days ago
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