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Do You Ever Feel Like You Are Not Heard???

Saturday, July 25, 2015

I've just come to realize that I've been feeling this way for a LONG time! emoticon

It seems like my kids (almost ALL of the time), DH and at work (some times) totally discount what I say.

Kids (14, 21, 26) will ignore my requests to do stuff and outright disobey my directives (think requests to take their laundry piles from the dining room table to their rooms and directive to NOT use data on their phones away from home b/c we're getting HUGE overage charges). emoticon

Both kids and co-workers discounting the value of my extensive experience and top level college and post college education (think DD#1 - the 26 yr old- getting a parent complaint that a team player is acting in ways that are contractually prohibited (bullying). I've been a hiring/supervising manager for 20+ years at Fortune 100 companies and am very adept at handling these kinds of situations.

At work, the new leadership regime implementing the latest 'flavor' of corporate management has a very limited view / understanding of the impending negative downstream impacts.

That said, it bothers me BIG time. I feel like the Charlie Brown teacher that he hears as 'wha wha wha wha'.

ARGH!!!!

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  • POCKETFULOFSUN
    I feel your pain! emoticon
    1578 days ago
  • BOBCATGIRL76
    I'm so sorry to hear that you're feeling this way. I can only hope that it improves, and if it doesn't that you use it as motivation. Sometimes when I'm angry or upset, a nice walk or run can calm me down. Any time I can use exercise to feel better, I try to. Hope you're having a great Monday!
    1579 days ago
  • IOWALONEWOLF
    I can so relate to what you are saying. I wish I could offer words that would make sense to you, but we both know that this is not what you are looking for. I hope you find a way to bust through the communication barrier. The only question I can think to ask is do they discount you because you are a woman at work? I don't know where you work, but in my experience, it seems like some women just aren't heard no matter what they bring to the table or how smart they are because they are a woman.
    1580 days ago
  • MJREIMERS
    I can understand!! I think all moms/wives feel this way at times. It ticks me off when the kids will ignore my "help clean the house and put your laundry away," but when the hubby says it, everyone jumps! UGH!!

    I've gone on strike a few times. I don't do dishes, laundry or clean. It works for a little while and the kids/hubby help, but ultimately things go back to the way they were.

    Hang in there! Focus on you and what you can do; unfortunately we can't "make" others do things, but we can control how we react. Hugs!
    1580 days ago
  • TAMMAE
    Oh, all kids push the boundaries. After the one millionth time telling my kids to pick up their toys I just did it and placed them in a laundry basket. Then I sat the basket outside on the sidewalk with a sign that read "free". They were out there in about 2 minutes. Yep, I got pretty dirty looks but moms are immune to that. As teens... I told my boy if I see his shoes in the living room he may have to pick them up out of the yard. After writing this it seems to me I don't have a lot of patience. Kids are like that everywhere... but at work? That is just rude behavior when they don't listen. Sorry you are dealing with that.

    1581 days ago
  • WOUBBIE
    With kids? Absolutely, but that's probably a universal parent thing. I remember watching one teacher mesmerize a group of Cub Scouts on a potentially boring subject and asked her what her secret was. She said that she got progressively quieter while getting more intense at the same time. So I asked if that worked with her kids and she said "Hell, no!"

    I just finished some Fortune 100 training myself, as a matter of fact, on Persuasive Communication, and one thing they pointed out in my presentation that I never noticed was that I tend to downplay things by using phrases like "just an overview" and "kind of important". Hadn't realized that I do that. Presenting a stronger front would be easier if I actually said. "Here is an overview" and then got to it, or said, "Pay close attention, this is important."
    1581 days ago
  • no profile photo SHORTSTORY2
    OH YES!!! So many times a day I feel like this! My husband tends to be in his own world so much of the time. I find myself talking about something and right in the middle of my sentence he changes the subject just like I hadn't said a word! That's when I just tell myself to shut up. It is insulting and I do get mad. I don't work anymore so I don't have the work thing, but when I did work I was accused of talking to myself when I would be sitting with the group talking to them!!! Proves to me no one listens to me!! Wish I had the answer to this, but I don't know if there is one anymore. You're not alone----if that is any comfort ; )
    1581 days ago
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