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Grandparent question - update

Wednesday, July 22, 2015

I just heard that my 5 year old granddaughter thinks that I love her 18 month old cousin more than her. It isn't true, but how can I show her this?
One of the problems might be that I am the one who cares for the 18 month old during the week.
This Friday, I am picking the 5 year old up from her daycare early, getting the other two around 5. They are all spending the night and then we are all going to Chattanooga on Saturday.
I am open to any suggestions to help her understand that I love all three of them and also to help her deal with this. She also has two younger cousins on the other side of the family who are both still babies.
The two I watch live 15 minutes from me and she lives about 30, so any suggestions would be welcome. She starts kindergarten this August, so I can't just go get her during the days I don't have the others.
9/12/15 - this weekend is all about her! Going to her soccer game this morning, lunch, then she will spend the night. We are going to take her to a museum either this afternoon or tomorrow.
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    Great suggestions! This is a concern I have with our six GRANDS as one lives nearby, while three live an hour and a half away and two live nearly eight hours away.. Love them all..try to let them know that... but the concern is genuine!
    1285 days ago
    I am betting you have already come up with a solution?...... but I had a thought while reading this...... my daughter when she was a little girl we would have a special day together and call it a "Girls...... it would be just the two of us and we would go have a little breakfast do some girly shopping...... and just have fun in general..... Usually it was on a Saturday........ let me know..... emoticon
    1310 days ago
    I haven't had this come up, yet, but I'm sure I will! I learned from the comments! Thanks for posting it! And it's great to read your blog again! emoticon
    1314 days ago
    I hope you have been able to work this out. Mine only suggestion is to have some nice one on one time with her.
    1323 days ago
    I agree with the others and any time that you can spend with just her will help reassure her that you love all of them the same. This is a common problem with grandchildren, I've found.
    1335 days ago
    Thanks for the suggestions. I will be able to have lunch with her a couple of times during the school year. I am planning on taking her to help me pick out some games that we can play together when the babies nap.
    1336 days ago
    Good suggestions above. I haven't had to deal with this yet, but I agree that any time you can spend when it's just the 2 of you will help. She'll figure it out as she gets older too. Has she said why she feels that way? Maybe send her cards or notes in the mail once in a while. Then she could see that since she's not a "baby" she is old enough to get her own special notes from you.
    1336 days ago
    This sounds typical with grandchildren.
    Would it be possible for you to have lunch with her at school sometime? If not, buy something special for her classroom for her give just because you want her to know she is special.
    My oldest granddaughter likes to say that she is my favorite in front of the other 2 that live close by. I smile and say, She is my favorite (and put her name in the blank). This way I can say it about each one the same way. They like that!
    1336 days ago
    Can you Skype visit with her or visit on the phone? Some times being able to see one another can make a difference, where she can show you what's she colored that day or what ever may be going on in her life.

    When y'all are together, perhaps make special time with her to do big-girl stuff after the baby is down for the nap? It is hard at that age and maturity level to grasp that loving-you-with-my-whole heart doesn't diminish if I also love someone else with my whole heart.
    1336 days ago
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