Sunday, July 05, 2015
No matter how old your children get, when they argue it hurts. Yesterday two of mine got into it over the use of the word "female" when talking about people. DD was saying it was insulting to all women because that is the term used for research while DS was asking what term should be used and was told "women". Then, when DS picked up his niece to play with, and she was laughing and saying put me down, he said how do you ask? and DD said she shouldn't have to ask as it is her body, and wasn't joking. Well, now DS is not going to play with niece without permission. I talked to DD and explained that my older sisters fought to be called "female" and not "girl", "gal", or other terms and that not everyone finds it insulting. I also explained to her about how DS felt about his niece. They talked for over an hour but I don't think anything was solved.
I know they are unaware of how their fighting hurt me. I am afraid that a wedge will be driven between them by each other. I really don't know what to do. I have several things planned for the family this month and I worry about them. I need to know if they love each other. I need them to get along. I need to be free to love them both.
Sorry to be down about this. I hope it will blow over and maybe lay down some ground rules for any future discussions.