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Feeling Down

Sunday, July 05, 2015

No matter how old your children get, when they argue it hurts. Yesterday two of mine got into it over the use of the word "female" when talking about people. DD was saying it was insulting to all women because that is the term used for research while DS was asking what term should be used and was told "women". Then, when DS picked up his niece to play with, and she was laughing and saying put me down, he said how do you ask? and DD said she shouldn't have to ask as it is her body, and wasn't joking. Well, now DS is not going to play with niece without permission. I talked to DD and explained that my older sisters fought to be called "female" and not "girl", "gal", or other terms and that not everyone finds it insulting. I also explained to her about how DS felt about his niece. They talked for over an hour but I don't think anything was solved.
I know they are unaware of how their fighting hurt me. I am afraid that a wedge will be driven between them by each other. I really don't know what to do. I have several things planned for the family this month and I worry about them. I need to know if they love each other. I need them to get along. I need to be free to love them both.
Sorry to be down about this. I hope it will blow over and maybe lay down some ground rules for any future discussions.
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    best to you
    1372 days ago
    I hope it worked out for you. emoticon
    1378 days ago
  • 1MNEME
    Hope things get resolved soon. emoticon
    1385 days ago
    I think I understand. I've heard siblings not get along, but thankfully, we all did and our kids mostly all do. Just tell them how you feel. That they are all yours and you love them all and you really need to know and see that they, in turn, love each other, and accept each other for who they are. Plain and simple. Their little quibbles are not something to be driving wedges with. Praying all is well. It's ok to get a bit down sometimes, but (speaking from experience) don't let it take you over. Remember and recite and believe the "Serenity Prayer". It really helps. (((HUGS)))
    1386 days ago
    No matter what. You are always free to love them both! emoticon
    1386 days ago
    You're right. No matter how old our kids are they're still our babies and we want to know they get along and love one another. Maybe you should share that it hurts you to see them argue. This is most likely one of those times when they should agree to disagree and leave it at that.
    1386 days ago
    I'm so sorry that has happened between your DD and DS. I pray it'll be resolved soon and that a compromise can take place. emoticon
    1386 days ago
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