A letter to my future husband
Friday, May 15, 2015
Moment of reflection. I was asked last night if I ever saw myself getting married again since my divorce 5 years ago.
Of course I can! I mean, there was a moment where I didn't ever want to get married again because it was not a positive experience for me, but in all reality, it was more of a learning experience for me than anything else. And it has taken me a few years to really identify what I am looking for from a significant other, a partner, and a future husband. Also, I have had times to come into my own to know my worth, value and what I bring to a relationship.
That said, i wanted to just share an open letter to my future husband.......
If you are reading this, then I want to thank you for choosing me, for loving me, and for being my other half. I am truly blessed to have found my partner in life.
Although I know life seems so grande now, I am not too naive to know that we will have our ups and down and good times and tough times. For that, I have some promises I want to make you--today, and for always.
I promise to love you with every ounce that I am. To give you all of my heart, allow you to fill that space with all that we are. Loving you from the depths, not just a surface level of love, but the soulful love that happens when you are fully invested in your significant other. I will give you that, even in times when I don't think I can love you any more than I already do, I will find new ways to love you just an ounce more.
I promise to care and nurture your heart. Embracing all the beautiful things you bring to the table and making sure that those pieces of your heart you give to me that I take the most intentional care of. I will make sure that you always feel safe bearing your soul to me, opening your mind, sharing your feelings, and being vulnerable with me. It's in those times when we are drowning in ashes of turmoil, that we will rise like a phoenix as a couple.
I promise to be your encourager. Your rock. Your confidant. Your best friend. Your sounding board. Your support. And your partner. I will have your back and always be on your team. No matter what, I will always be ready to stand by you. I will be there to go through challenges with you and share in victories with you. I will always be your workout partner, encouraging you to be your best and put in just a little more effort. I will pick you up when you are down. I will never fight with you in public, but I will be willing to talk when we get home. I will work hard to make sure you feel confident knowing you have me in your corner...and if your battles ever become too much for you to manage, I will be right there to help fight them for you. Where ever you go, I will be there with you, as your right hand woman.
I promise to always work on my communication. To be open and honest, to know my limitations when I am upset and how to make sure you know that as well. I promise to respect your space when you need it and I will work to own up to my mistakes and apologize (even if I am not wrong.....just so we can begin to move forward and work through the problem). I may not always want to talk about my feelings, but I promise you that I will always be willing to work on this part. That I will sit down and listen, hear you out, and work towards a solution. To express my emotions in a healthy way that is constructive. I will never let you guess how I am feeling and I promise not to use the words "everthing is fine" unless it truly is. And when there is something bothering me, I will come to you and tell you.
I promise to always date you. To always remember the butterflies that we had at day one...even if we are at day 10,409 or beyond. That no matter what happens or what is going on in our lives that we make time for each other to do something special, thoughtful, to go on a mini-vacation and to just continue to date. Even after we are married, continuing to date one another is going to be something I am committed to. Never letting the spark or the flame die, to always remember how it felt in the 'honeymoon' phases of exploring and learning and to work at growing together as a couple. To loving beyond measure and remembering the little things that keep things so enjoyable!
I promise to be yours and yours alone. Yours forever and yours always. And I truly, undoubtedly, undying cannot wait to spend every moment with you for always.
Forever and happily,
Oh Friday ramblings of love and happiness.
Peace and love