Really, Come On!

Friday, April 17, 2015

I thought life would finally start to get a bit better, but thou and behold that is not happening.
My brother, Bill, is still on his way to recovery and it will take a long time but things are going good so far.
And a big THANK YOU to everyone for all the support and encouragement.
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Now life is kicking me in the butt another time.
My husband who went through detox for alcohol in November 2014 just started drinking brandy yesterday. This morning before I woke up he was on his 24 oz. can of beer. His comment was: "At least I went a long time without a drink." An hour later he's headed to the garage. I asked him where he was going and he was planning on going to go buy more beer. I told him if you get pulled over and loose your driving license, oh well, too bad, because I'm not driving your butt around. And before you open your mouth to ask me to go get you some, it's not happening so just go to bed.
Really, come on, it's been 6 months, not 6 years.
My goodness, am I being tested for something and if so, what is the reward?
I will not stand by and watch him do this to himself and me again.
If this continues one more day I already have a small suitcase out for him to go do his drinking somewhere else. And if he needs the larger suitcase it is within reach.
And, fortunately, my MS hasn't been stirred up anymore yet.
Please pray for Ken that he can get rid of his demons and get through this.
I appreciate all the help, support and love all of you have been sending my way!
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    have him make a list with 3 columns...1 bad things that happened..(name them.)...... ...........2 alcohol involved...........................
    .....................3 alcohol not involved...........................

    now when the list is big enough, see if alcohol was present when bad things happened,...or not present.....then see the result, which usually proves all the bad stuff happened because alcohol was involved...should be enough evidence in the (presence of alcohol ), column,.... showing that it is the root of the bad experiences.......then give an ultimatum......us and all we have created together (or),....getting smashed.......if he loves the booze more, then it is over, he made his choice...if he chooses you, you both must work together to keep things in line,...but keep in mind, addicts are all the same, and slippage is human,because we are not perfect, but besides the fact if he never drinks booze ever again, he is an alcoholic still, and always will be....i am hoping everything turns out for the better...it would be worse case senairo that all of your years together ends up to be (All For Nothing)....
    luck be with you Annie emoticon
    1731 days ago
    so sorry for all the troubles, my goodness!
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    1732 days ago
    glad about your Brother, ...take care of yourself. Find an AAnon meeting for yourself and do what you need to do to protect yourself....prayers and hugs
    1736 days ago

    Comment edited on: 4/18/2015 8:11:56 AM
    Sad about your husband - alcohal is an evil mistress (altho street drugs are even more evil). Tuff love is the best. I agree with calling the police if he's doing impaired driving. If he killed someone, his life would be over, too.

    Go, Bill, go, Bill! emoticon

    1736 days ago
    Praying for you and Ken...don't let the stress aggravate your MS...sounds like you have a handle on it....but I will keep you both in my prayers...


    Hang in there...


    : No MS problems since last year in April....trying to keep my calm about everything so as not to acerbate it ...
    1736 days ago
    Alanon would help you soooooo much. It is a lifesaver when you are dealing with addicts and alcoholics! Good luck.
    1736 days ago
    Sorry your hubby went back to drinking. There is nothing you can do about it except to make clear your position, and then take care of yourself. But, personally, if he was drinking and took the car, I would call the police and report him before he has a chance to kill someone or himself with that vehicle. I know that may sound hard to do, but Al-Anon does teach such 'tough love' and 'consequences'.

    Sobriety is a choice - at least once you know you are an alcoholic. He can choose A.A. or rehab, but life will not improve by drinking.

    I hope he chooses to get back on the wagon, and stay there. Either way - whatever he chooses - take care of yourself, 'ya hear.

    1736 days ago
    emoticon so glad your brother is doing better.
    1736 days ago

    Comment edited on: 4/17/2015 6:11:18 PM
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