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Should I help my husband?

Friday, February 20, 2015

So my husband got a new job and with it comes new insurance. His new insurance requires a health risk assessment. I am familiar with this and had to go through it myself with my insurance in the past. He had to have his weight and blood pressure and all that checked and then go online to get his final results and finish the set up. I don't know if he did the rest but he didn't want to share his weight with me. I have been sharing mine as I go along, good and bad, and he has always weighed roughly 20-30 pounds less than me. As of Thursday he weighs only 5 pounds less than me. I didn't lose a bunch, he gained a bunch. Now that he is in the same lose 50 pounds boat I am, I got excited. He will finally understand and sympathize with my struggle. And struggle it most assuredly has been. But I think he isn't ready yet to see this for what it really is. And I don't know I can be supportive of him yet until he pulls it together. He wants me to shower him with praise when he eats a smaller portion, but when I told him I lost 2.5 inches in the last 6 weeks I just get a uh huh. I know what we need to eat and portion sizes and what to steer clear of but when he makes the meals he says he doesn't know what to make, and goes to the old high carb high fat stand bys.
I feel like I am trying to fly and he is standing on my cape. Do I keep expending energy into trying to get him to where I am so he can lose and be successful too, or do I let him spend years figuring it out and back him when he finally hits his Ok, I get it, this is real and I need to start making it happen, moment.
Do any of you have a partner in the same boat your in? Do they want to go along with you for the ride or are they thinking this is only your issue and they are doing just fine on their own.
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    emoticon She'd that Cape and Fly with your Own Strong Wings!
    Hubby will fly when he is ready, and not One Second before that. You can make healthy Meals and Snacks available for him, but beyond that, he Has To Fly On His Own.
    emoticon Try not to expect him to support you or encourage you too much right now, and maybe not for a long time. Get a Workout Buddy, or join a Class if possible so that your Workout Partner can give you the Support and Encouragement that he can't right now.
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    1596 days ago
    my DH argues and fights with me constantly about eating & exercise issues. I just stopped discussing it with him. When he is ready he will ask for advice. You can't make him lose weight any more than he can make you
    1699 days ago
    Not sure what to say here. I would say go ahead and help him as long as it doesn't stress you out or drains you of energy. Maybe you can look up delicious recipes together as far as making meals are concerned.
    1699 days ago
    I would support him and when the results come in share with him options to make things better

    my husband is diabetic and a lot of the things he does are not good for diabetics and when he sees results on paper and his risk of other issues, that brings him back to a place where he wants to try and loose
    1699 days ago
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