Should I help my husband?
Friday, February 20, 2015
So my husband got a new job and with it comes new insurance. His new insurance requires a health risk assessment. I am familiar with this and had to go through it myself with my insurance in the past. He had to have his weight and blood pressure and all that checked and then go online to get his final results and finish the set up. I don't know if he did the rest but he didn't want to share his weight with me. I have been sharing mine as I go along, good and bad, and he has always weighed roughly 20-30 pounds less than me. As of Thursday he weighs only 5 pounds less than me. I didn't lose a bunch, he gained a bunch. Now that he is in the same lose 50 pounds boat I am, I got excited. He will finally understand and sympathize with my struggle. And struggle it most assuredly has been. But I think he isn't ready yet to see this for what it really is. And I don't know I can be supportive of him yet until he pulls it together. He wants me to shower him with praise when he eats a smaller portion, but when I told him I lost 2.5 inches in the last 6 weeks I just get a uh huh. I know what we need to eat and portion sizes and what to steer clear of but when he makes the meals he says he doesn't know what to make, and goes to the old high carb high fat stand bys.
I feel like I am trying to fly and he is standing on my cape. Do I keep expending energy into trying to get him to where I am so he can lose and be successful too, or do I let him spend years figuring it out and back him when he finally hits his Ok, I get it, this is real and I need to start making it happen, moment.
Do any of you have a partner in the same boat your in? Do they want to go along with you for the ride or are they thinking this is only your issue and they are doing just fine on their own.