This is my granddaughter. She is beautiful, smart and talented. Yes, she loves makeup and fashion. She also spends time in church sponsored camps where she works with children of the poor and with the elderly, helping them in their neighborhoods with whatever they need. She is 15 and already has a good job after school and on weekends, earning money to pay for her own every day things, saving it for bigger things.
She goes to a high school with about 2000 students and she is being BULLIED on social media. One mean girl in particular, along with her followers, have focused on the one "flaw" they could come up with and say she has a big mouth. They say her mouth is so big she looks like a frog.
My granddaughter has blocked all these girls on her own social media so she can no longer see what they post. However, well meaning friends at school ask her every day, "Did you see. . ." so she always knows what new hurtful thing is posted.
These girls also see her in the school halls and say hurtful things to her, making fun of her big smile.
Yes, all grown up people, of all ages, know these girls are ignorant, jealous, have no self esteem, and can only feel good by making others feel badly.
I wonder how Julia Roberts got through school with her big smile? Or Barbara Streisand with her nose?
The school doesn't offer much help. Yes, the school police are involved and speaking to the girl and her parent. Short of filing criminal charges and spending a lot of upsetting time in court, there doesn't seem to be any recourse.
Shouldn't every school have some sort of mandatory program to deal with this? Anger management? Relating to your fellow students? Something?
How do you soften the heart of a bully? How do you bring a teen to awareness of humanity and kindness?
It's a national problem. What's the answer?