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Down but Not Out

Friday, February 13, 2015

Hey guys I need some encouragement. I'm a mood eater and the tension in our home right now is so thick you could cut it with a knife. My husband appears to have lost his job. Rather not go into the details as to what happened but suffice it to say he was sent home on Tuesday and told he would be off the rest of the week. he spoke with his boss yesterday adn was told he would be off next week too.

I'm trying very hard to remember that I didn't cause this and there is nothing I can do to change it. But I want to cry and I want to scream. I'm sad. I'm mad. I'm confused and totally upset all at the same time.

I will admit I've been coping this week by eating. Trying to make the things I stuff in to stuff down what wants to come boiling out as healthy as possible. I stayed away from Tim Hortons every night this week when all I wanted to do on the way home was pull in for a few donuts to make the drive home more comfortable.

The weather sucks. My mood sucks. Any words of encouragement would be appreciated.
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    emotional eating is tough.. I know I have been an emotional all my life..I would gladly support you on your journey....Here is hoping that 2017 will be our year
    1028 days ago
    I'm sorry you're going through this. My husband has been out of work since November, and I too turn to food more than I should. I'm rooting for us both to get on track this week. Keeping you in prayer.
    1740 days ago
  • BRENDA0170
    Thank you all for your supportive feedback. I will be trying the suggestions of all of you over the next week! emoticon
    1741 days ago
    emoticon emoticon You have received wonderful advice here already. SparkPeople also has quite a few articles on emotional eating that may help. You can type it into the search box. It can be hard when everything feels like its going all wrong. Would focusing on the things that seem to be going right help? I've had to that during some of life's storms. It helps me a lot to stop dwelling on the negative things that are most of the time out of my control. If I caught myself dwelling on a negative thought I had to replace it with three positive ones. (Last year, I got a lot of use on this one!) Another thing that's helped me is by doing a certain activity based on how I feel. Example for frustration or anger, I've punched on my punching bag or taking the couch cushions outside and dusted them with a bat. When whatever is bugging me is out of my control, I will clean or rearrange something in the house. With worrying a good distraction helps like visiting a bookstore, or trying to refocus on my goals and where I'm at with them.

    What about visiting a loved one or friend you haven't seen in a while? You could get caught up on how they are doing. Make plans to go do something at another day so it wont so long before y'all have a get together. How about catching up with a Spark friend or making a new one? What about redoing the contents of what's in your kitchen, if your afraid the munchies will hit. So that way you have healthy options at hand even if the munchies visit.

    Sorry this got so long, but I hope it helps.
    1742 days ago
    I am so very sorry this happened to you ! I would feel the same. Cause it really feels like there's nothing to do. ! Don't know how old your husband is or your circumstances are there but just know things will get better !! Even thou it seems like it won't And don't know if this will help but God never gives you more than you can handle. ! Now is time to try to plan and come together and see if he can get another job !! Please know I am thinking of you. Praying too ️hugs !!!
    1742 days ago
    As long as you are ...moving through... these bad times, they will pass. Just keep going, minute to minute. It'll all be ok. Remember, worrying is like praying for the wrong things, keep it positive, change is coming.
    1742 days ago
    Life changes are so hard, especially unexpected ones! Know that there will be more changes ahead and that this space won't stay the same forever!

    One of the things I have started doing when I am struggling with things is something I love. Depending on what I am going through - sometimes it is just getting outside for a long walk by myself. I live in the city but there is a bike path near my house that goes through the woods and I frequently walk there. I find it comforting there.

    Another thing I do is donate time at a homeless shelter - helping serve food, working in their food pantry, or reading stories to the kids - it really gets me out of myself. Sometimes I get so caught up in my problems that I don't see how blessed I am!

    Of course, there is always working out to some upbeat tunes to build some endorphins! None of these things cost money and only take a little of your time!

    So my suggestion would be - take a few minutes alone and go do something you love - just for you! Treat yourself just like you would a friend who is going through some challenging times! Be gentle with yourself!


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    1742 days ago
  • DEANN1013
    I'm so sorry that you're have a rough time and I'm hoping that things turn around quickly and that happier times are just around the corner. emoticon

    The only thing that never fails to lift my spirit is music. Listening to music that I love (sometimes just quietly and sometimes blasting while I dance around my room or in the car like a mad woman) has helped me through some of my worst bouts of depression, the loss of loved ones and numerous other bad times.

    1742 days ago
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