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In the blender.......

Friday, January 23, 2015

Whirl, whirl, whirl.....

Ever feel like you are in the blender? That's me today. My head is spinning. I want a million things. I just want them. One of them is being healthier. Gee that sounds pretty simple - just eat those food groups in proper portions and move a bit each day. How complicated is that?

Obviously for this girl, it is complicated. Perhaps it isn't complicated. Perhaps I make it complicated. Yep, it's really pretty simple but I am pretty complex!

A friend at work is starting a diet....again. She asked me to join her. She and another girl are going to do the Bob Harper Skinny Rules plan. She is going on vacation and wants to look better in a bathing suit.

I thought for a minute. I told her no. Which got me thinking... which takes me to the blender...

I've been headed down this path to a healthier lifestyle for along time. I've tried so many different paths to get there and am somewhere a few steps from where I started, but a long way from where I desire to be. Each attempt and failure erodes my self esteem.

Fat people shaming, food shaming, exercise shaming..... shame, shame, shame ... you know... you wear WHAT size? you weight WHAT? are you really eating THAT? You should be eating THIS! Did I see you eat Twizzlers? OMG! You really need to exercise. You really need to be a runner. P90X is awesome. You really need to try yoga. Media does it, society does it, people we know do it, people we don't know do it --- AND I DO IT (to myself, not to you of course).

OK turn off the blender please. STOP! whirl, whirl, whirl. S_T_O_P!

No more. I am done. This is MY path! I AM moving forward.

There is no one way, there is no right way, there is no better way. Each path is as unique as it's traveler. So quit with the shame. There is no shame. You ARE changing.

I had someone put it to me simply - which works best for me. You get in a kayak and are told to meet up in the middle of the lake. Some people kayak along the shoreline and cut over to the middle, taking in all the sites along the way; others shoot straight down the middle - to be the first to arrive, others zig zag to the meeting place. Which way is the right way? They all are - the people who took the long way, can't believe those who shot up the middle missed all those sights, those who shot up the middle, can't believe those taking the shoreline wasted all that time. Guess what - each one arrived in their own manner - which is what really matters!

OK, thinking is done for today. No more shaming. No guilt. I am taking MY path! I am learning and getting stronger each day.!

I will emerge..... in MY time.

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  • no profile photo CD15145828
    "There is no one way, there is no right way, there is no better way."

    That is so beautifully said! Whatever you choose, let it be just the PERFECT Choice, for you.

    Keep on truckin', Barb!
    2371 days ago
    2373 days ago
    Awesome blog! emoticon

    I didn't see your blog until after I posted mine this morning. Our themes are very similar which makes me think we're walking on the same path.

    emoticon I'll be looking for you along the way!!
    2373 days ago

    Comment edited on: 1/24/2015 8:47:28 AM
    this is a winner blog - you are thinking things through to find *your* way. love this:

    "There is no one way, there is no right way, there is no better way. Each path is as unique as it's traveler."

    so true!
    2374 days ago
    You have been doing a lot of contemplating about your choices and lifestyle, good for you working out what works for you because one size definitely does not fit all.

    2374 days ago
  • ALP1976
    Shaming. Oh don't even get me started. Don't even get me started on the Skinny Rules. Sigh. Barb, working toward balance and moderation isn't sexy and it doesn't promise tight abs and a bikini ready body by summer, but I am willing to put my stamp of gurarantee that those who take on those programs who promise such rapid results will be back in the EXACT same boat. It just doesn't do anything but offer empty promises.

    I am so proud of you, girl. I know that blender well. I've been in it a lot. I think I have found my switch to slow it down at least.

    Your path is a good one. You don't need me to tell you that. You know where the others lead. The end results may be far away but everyday you show up and do your best, they're getting closer.

    I think you're fantastic!!
    2374 days ago
    You definitely do not have to take the same path as your friend. But there is no reason not to encourage each other and cheer each other on. I hate that "my path is better than your path" mentality. I agree with you. It is the final destination that counts.
    2374 days ago
    Good job finding your way. I've been getting a lot of unsolicited advice too. It makes me want to print up cards to hand out saying "if I want some advice, I will ask for it."
    2374 days ago
    Wow - one of the best blogs I have read - TURN OFF THE BLENDER - i love it!
    2374 days ago
  • no profile photo CD5198989
    Great blog! Hope you make blogger of the day.
    2374 days ago
    There is no one way, there is no right way, there is no better way. Each path is as unique as it's traveler. So quit with the shame. There is no shame. You ARE changing.

    that should be on a billboard somewhere...everywhere, actually :-)

    Barb! You are so very amazing! I love you. I love your honesty. I love your struggle. I love your overcoming! You are DOING THIS, My Sweet! EVERY, SINGLE DAY...you ARE doing this!!!

    And YOUR way is the BEST way!!! Don't let anyone...including yourself...tell you differently!

    lovelovelove,R>stephi :-)
    2374 days ago
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