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I'm gonna do it my way

Wednesday, January 21, 2015

So yesterday I got to thinking. When we put my DD in a Montessori pre-school, they started out teaching her to read the sounds -tion and -th. She didn't even know her letters yet, much less what sound t made on its own. She was not ready for what they were teaching her.

I kind of feel the same way sometimes. There is a lot of focus on eating freggies. I think that is too advanced for me and in order for me to succeed at weight loss, I am going to have to start doing something even more basic than that. I need to get my calories down to 1500 and forget (at least for now) about the quality of them. So if I eat 2 bagels with cream cheese a day but stay within my 1500 calories, I'm doing OK, even if I only ate 1 freggie that day. Might not be the SP way, but it's MY way. Once I master that, I will consider adding freggies in. And when there are challenges that say to eat a rainbow, I eat olives (green and black!) which are different colors but high in calories. That causes me to overeat. So for now, I can't do that. It's too advanced for me at this time.

Another thing people say is "Don't call it a diet, call it a lifestyle change". That doesn't work for me. The thought of having to eat like this for the rest of my life makes me very depressed and makes me want to just quit!! I can handle eating like this for a while, in order to lose the weight, and then I can think about making small changes as part of a lifestyle change. I have first-hand experience with losing weight. In 2011, I lost 50 pounds and I have since gained it all back. Because I went back to my old way of eating. So after I get the weight off again, I will have to be much more careful. But I'll cross that bridge when I get back there.

Something else people say is not to weigh in every day. Phooey! I MUST weigh every day, otherwise I forget and just eat eat eat. I need that motivation every day and will continue to weigh every day. It helps me and right now, I'll take all the help I can get.

Everything in moderation. That doesn't work for me. Just have one bite so you can get the taste, but then stop. If that works for you, great! But usually for me, once I start eating something, I don't stop. Eating one bite of chocolate cake or eating 3 potato chips doesn't work for me. I would rather just not have any and leave the room. That works better for me usually.

So I have decided that I'm going to do things my way. I'm not an average person and I certainly don't have average tastes and feelings. I need to tailor this journey for me and that's exactly what I intend to do!

Thanks for reading.

Edited to add:
I thought of something else that annoys me. When I first started this journey, back in 2010, I met with a nutritionist (it was free through my work). I used to eat a cheeseburger and fries every single day for lunch, and pasta or pizza for dinner every night. When I started trying to lose weight, I told her that I was now eating a Lean Cuisine for lunch every day. She told me that those frozen meals have way too much sodium in them and to avoid them. So I tried to make myself a tasty, low cal, low fat lunch that was quick. It didn't work. I don't have time to make something in the morning. I have found that having a Lean Cuisine for lunch every day (with some carrots and celery and a piece of fruit) keeps my calories down. Like I said, when I get better at this, I'll think about reducing my sodium but until then, I'm going to focus on the calories.

AND as Sharon said in the comments below (it reminded me of something else I wanted to post here), I need to avoid my trigger foods. It's taken me this long to realize I have trigger foods, so I really ought to use that information to help me instead of ignoring it. If I eat soy sauce, I puff up for 5 days and gain 2-4 pounds. It eventually comes off (it's water weight) but it depresses me. Same for pasta. I LOVE pasta. (I grew up in Italy!!!). But if I eat it, I gain 2-4 pounds for a few days. So I need to avoid these foods as much as possible. My third trigger food is wine. I love wine and drink it every day, but more than 1-2 glasses and I start to eat everything in sight. So I really need to limit it.

I've also noticed that I do fine during the week and during the day, but in the evenings, I totally overeat. Now that I know when my problem time is, I need to focus on being much more aware of things during that time.
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  • DRADDIE
    Totally agree with you on all of this!
    1717 days ago
  • SUETINGE
    Great blog! You have to do what works for you.
    2073 days ago
  • SUETINGE
    Great blog! You have to do what works for you.
    2073 days ago
  • SUETINGE
    Great blog! You have to do what works for you.
    2073 days ago
  • A-NEW-PAULA
    Many years ago my emotional eating coach said the same thing about eating 1500 calories and eat what you want the first time (not what other people say you should eat) It sounds like you have learned a lot about what works for you! It doesn't take much wine to trigger me to eat everything I can get my hands on too. Do you feel like you are missing out if you don't drink wine EVERY night? Stay in range and maybe take a multivitamin with minerals to give you the nutrients and maybe some gummy fiber (or however you can get your fiber in).

    Try it your way! What do you have to lose??? You can always adjust it if it doesn't work!

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    2076 days ago
  • TREE57
    I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU!

    IT IS OUR PERSONAL JOURNEY, NOT SOMEONE ELSE'S COOKIE CUTTER WAY.

    WE KNOW WHAT TRIGGERS OUR OVEREATING....IF WE CONTROL THAT THEN WE HAVE THIS IN THE BAG.

    I HAVE TO DO THIS MY WAY OR IT WON'T STICK. IT'S LIKE WITH ANYTHING ELSE, WE HAVE TO DO IT FOR OURSELVES AND NO ONE ELSE.

    YOUR EPIPHANY IS SPOT ON!
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    2076 days ago
  • SNY-2020NVISION
    I echo that each person needs to find what works and doesn't work.. and sometimes we need to cut slack and do one piece at a time and build from there... i think one of the keys IS self-awareness...

    I also believe that I don't have all the answers for me... it would be so much easier if we did... and actually things change along the way... so i try to be mindful of that...

    I wish you the best with YOUR weight loss and health journey...

    Thank you for sharing your blog...


    2076 days ago
  • EVER-HOPEFUL
    great blog love .what works for you is the one that will carry you through for the long run.keep on keeping on proud of you love you can so what from do this emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    2076 days ago
  • OVERWEIGHT
    I totally agree with you. I thought the Dash Diet was good but I can't keep salad making in the fridge long or they turn brown. After awhile salads gets old. DH is loving the smoothies made from fruit and so do I. I know before to long this too will play out. There was a nutritionist spoke at our medical group one time and said a calorie is a calorie no matter what from you eat it in. The only difference is some are empty calories that don't benefit you. Place a chocolate bar in a plate and in another plate veggies the same amount of calories and which plate would keep you fuller the longer. I love my chocolate and if I have my way I will have one time to time. I bought several bags of chips 2 for $1 they are small and if I get that overwhelming urge they are there and I won't be tempted to go to the little store up the road where all their chips are in large bags. Last night I shared the small bag with the 3 little ones so you know I only got a taste. Bottom line do what you need to do and I am behind you 100%.
    2076 days ago
  • SHARON-2020
    You nailed it! I do the same thing...I dont focus on freggie and I dont push water. I keep away from trigger foods. I am reading refuse to regain and the author saysv there is no such thing as moderation. You are in good company. They say the best diet and the best fitness plan is the one you will stick with. emoticon
    2076 days ago
  • TRUNKJUNK
    Julie,
    I think the best thing you can do is what you've proposed - doing things your way. There is not a surefire way to tackle weight loss. What works for one person does not necessarily work for another. If it did the diet industry wouldn't be a multi-billion dollar business. I think it's great you have identified what works for you and what doesn't. I wish you great success in your weight loss endeavors.

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    2076 days ago
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