Negativity -Free Day
Monday, January 19, 2015
I am declaring this a No Negativity Day! Have you ever found yourself in a situation where,despite all your best efforts to be positive,the people in your life just aren't on board?
I know we all have problems & struggles,and as a friend we want to support people in their times of need.The problem is when it becomes a the main focus of your conversations -period.That's when we need to set some boundaries.
You are probably a very good listener and want to be a good friend—you want to be supportive of whatever your friend is going through. That is understandable. But be clear on what it means to be a good friend and what it means to be supportive.
A healthy relationship is balanced & requires an equal amount of give and take, time and effort.
So,how do you know when it has become something else?
1. Are they always unhappy?
2. Do they dominate every phone call or interaction by talking about their problems?
3. Do they show interest in your life or your problems?
4. Do they feel better after dumping on you and you feel worse?
It is hard to determine when things are becoming unbalanced-but essential for our own mental health to learn to set boundaries and learn to detach from the negativity. I'm not suggesting you ignore anyone in a real crisis-but those who live to complain & see the worst in everything. We need to recharge our own batteries.
Make your own need to focus on the positive things in your life a priority.
Thanks for dropping by & I hope you will have a wonderful,drama- free day.