Meeting with Personal Trainer
Tuesday, January 13, 2015
The meeting went really well with the personal trainer! His office is quite literally filled with certificates! He essentially will do a one hour consultation to determine what, how and when to eat and work out then implement a plan. I think it went really well!
Here's my issue - my husband (who has an incredibly high metabolism and can basically eat whatever he wants) has a very tough time understanding the struggle I have, and sometimes it seems like his ears are closed to a lot of the conversation.
The trainer has worked with lap-band and gastric bypass patients before and he feels that all these surgeries end up doing (and I tend to agree, wish I knew that at age 21) is shutting down the body's ability to burn and puts it into survival mode so I would need to increase my calorie intake. He also said that he's strict, that's fine! I'm ok with that!
What my husband heard "you can't eat desert ever again" which turned into "I've been telling you this all along that you need to try harder"
I can't fault him too much, I know this is his personality, he was brought up in a household where it was expected that the best way to succeed is to be belittled and criticized - this is how you get someone to succeed. In HIS mind. (Asian upbringing, he's Indian and an engineer - go figure :-P)
So...now I'm down to make a decision on my own. And I'm scared. I'm scared that I will fail, and subsequently waste $350 for 12 weeks of failure, which will in turn affect my marriage.
Now what's a girl to do? I know I'm not going to get the kind of support that works for me from my husband and I'm fine with that (so I don't want to hear "oh well he should be more supportive" or "you need to talk to him" this was his upbringing and it's going to take a long time for him to work out of this. It's not going to happen in 3 short years living with me :-))
I guess what I'm asking for is a selfish rally call! I need someone I can buddy up with, someone that can tell me I'm doing great and to keep going! Can SP do that for me?