change of focus
Friday, January 09, 2015
So I've read about a study where if an event ends in a painful way the event is thought of as painful, whereas if it ends in a neutral or painless way, it's not thought of that way, even if there was more pain before the end. (I believe they were studying people undergoing a medical procedure, but I also think this concept may fan out to other areas of life).
So I had a lot going on yesterday, it was pampering day for my staycation. First I went to the aerial yoga class. It was so cool, the scarves hang down from the ceiling (which was open with large beams) and drop down to hip level. You want the scarf to be right at the hip bones so that when you are in downward facing dog and lift your feet off the ground you don't hit your head on the floor. There were 5 students, most of us newbies, and the instructor. We did lots of poses that were challenging, but supported by the scarves it was comfortable and enjoyable. We did handstands with our legs wrapped around the scarves, and tree pose actually standing in the scarf about 3 feet off the ground! I have to say, with the support of the scarf I actually closed my eyes in tree pose, which I normally can't do without falling out of it. And savasana while nestled into the scarf hammock, was like a slice of heaven....it felt like floating on water...
Next up was the facial, really nice, and occasionally painful (which made me think of the study I mentioned at the start of the blog) but it ended very nicely, and overall was a wonderful, calming experience, and my skin felt so soft at the end. The massage part was so relaxing as well....
So then I went home, and had some soup, the minestrone I made last weekend, it just keeps getting better!
I had to get my step count up, since yoga and a facial are not very steppy! I think before I went on my walk I was just at 2000 steps for the day, and it was already around 2PM! I took a longer hike/walk than I had the day before, it was such a nice day, and the trails are drying up well, with all the sun we've had.
So getting back to the pain study, with the day going so well, how could I possibly have felt like it wasn't a great day? Well we went to a restaurant to meet a group Larry is in, it used to be the MIT club, then it was the "all Ivy club" and I guess now it's the intercollegiate club. I was tired. And I felt like I had no energy left, and admittedly, I was a bit hungry and cranky from that. Plus, I've been trying to make better food choices, and had no idea what to expect at this place. But I thought we were going, and I'll just see what's up. Well, apparently no one from this brain trust had called ahead to reserve a spot or meeting area, so they just had one long table with inconvenient seating.....and it was loud....and the group had ordered appetizers from the place, fried calamari, potato skins, that kind of greasy fare. We stood around for a bit, and then Larry decided we should sit in a booth near the table....which I was OK with, but it did separate us from the group. I don't know most of these people, and I didn't recognize anyone from previous meet-ups, so I just hung out at the booth, while Larry mingled. And I was tired and still cranky. We did end up ordering a couple of sandwiches (I think I made a pretty reasonable choice, grilled chicken with sun-dried tomatoes and feta, it was tasty!) and a side salad instead of french fries....Larry's friend Kirk joined us, and we caught up with the goings on with his family. So it wasn't a total bomb, but not exactly the way I wanted to end my "spa day". So it left me feeling not so great about the day.....and I realize that I shouldn't let that happen, but I suppose it's hard to know what will go right or what will go badly. The past meet-ups I've been to with this group were better planned, in a quiet venue with veggie trays and better space to actually mingle and talk to different people. And maybe I just went into it with a poor attitude.
So I guess that's my takeaway for the day, try to end on a high note! We did come home and relax on the futon, and watched a little Anthony Bourdain traveling in France. So I suppose I could look at that and let it take away the sting of the meet-up I didn't enjoy. All it requires, I suppose, is a change of focus.