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(sorta) Celebrating Well

Monday, January 05, 2015

I put my notice in at my job today. Thank goodness, this nightmare is almost over. I talked to the big boss, and then sent an email to all relevant parties. Drizella was soon at my door asking me why. And I let it all out.

I told her there were lots of reasons, but that the biggest is that I'm not doing another performance evaluation with them again. She said that the evaluation would be different this year, because I did a good job this year. I said that I did a good job the year before, too, but she was just angry with me, and used the evaluation inappropriately. She said that's not true, just that she didn't know what I was doing. And I said she should have reconsidered evaluating it, then, if she didn't know. And that was a theme of the conversation. NOW I do a good job, and every time, I would say, No, I ALWAYS did a good job. It went on for a long time, and I said almost everything I needed to say. I was calm and didn't get flustered.

She said she hoped I would reconsider, and she is sorry if she was a part of this decision, but she feels her criticism was justified (and it may have been, and I granted her that, but I also said, "but your delivery was"). She just wanted to make sure everything was going to be okay. And I said, "Everything is going to be okay."

The point of all that is that today was giant for me. Giant. And I don't know if it warranted a celebration, but it certainly warranted marking. I decided I wanted something special for dinner. But I wanted something healthy. Because today is special, and I am special, and I DESERVE that. So I did the best I could--we just got back in town, so we're lacking in the grocery department, but I put together something that felt decadent--nuts, olive spread, Triscuits, cheddar...all portioned out, measured and tracked. Because I DESERVE that.
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    Speaking our truth: it can seem so difficult coming up on it, but often surprisingly easy to do and so FREEING! Kudos!

    1867 days ago
    I agree with all the comments. You're doing the right thing. All I would recommend for you is to smile politely when you ask them for references. (Big deal, they're on the list because they're 'previous employers' but it makes them feel precious.)
    1874 days ago
  • LINDA!
    I am happy for you. I agree with some of the others. I never had the nerve to speak up so directly to bosses that treated me poorly. I am now retired. As I look back, I realize that would have been the best thing I could have done. I am celebrating with you!! emoticon
    1876 days ago
  • PATTYJ48
    Way to go on staying calm and not letting her upset you. I wish you the very best in what path you now choose. You could stay in Indiana and take a position at another University here. emoticon PUC is not the only one out here. I too left a position I had for over 11 years because of the way I was treated and being told I made too much money in my position to warrant more than a merit raise. That was my push to find this other position in which I feel valued and go home every night knowing that I made a difference. emoticon
    1876 days ago
  • SUGAR0814
    emoticon You gotta do what makes you happy!
    1877 days ago
    WOW! I had no idea. Good for you. It has been a while that you were happy in your job. So, what next? Are you planning on returning to DC?
    Wishing you nothing but t he best.
    Hugs, Marlis
    1877 days ago
    I'm glad you said what was on your mind. Wish I could be that brave.
    1878 days ago
    congrats on the big move and getting it all off your chest in a productive way (for your self at least). I hope you find better and greater things in your new journey!

    1878 days ago
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    i feel like these emoticons aren't properly expressing my joy for you but you know how i feel!!!!!!
    1878 days ago
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    emoticon emoticon I admire you, both for speaking your truth and for celebrating with healthy stuff!
    1878 days ago
    I was excited all the way through this blog! Your triumph just totally resonates. I was pulling for you the whole way! You were "calm and didn't get flustered." Wow! To do what you did, to stand up for yourself, not to be intimidated, to be able to speak rationally and not back down in any way--I can't say that I've ever done anything requiring that kind of unwavering...guts! So happy for you that you did this, and that you had a celebration afterward! Actually, I would LOVE to have some triscuits. I remember those from my college days. They (and CHEEZITs) were my absolute favorite irresistible snacks. Sounds great to me! Congratulations at this momentous juncture! Go, BEATLETOT!
    1878 days ago
  • no profile photo CD14895051
    What a fabulous decision, conversation and celebration! It is funny that your supervisor had no idea she was ruining a good employee relationship, but that is often the case. I once had a supervisor mark me down on an evaluation. When I expressed surprise and anger, she said that of course I was off the charts in all these areas but she wanted to show "growth" next year. I demanded she change the evaluation and she did. Sometimes people do stupid things. Your supervisor just felt the consequence for some of hers.

    1878 days ago
    For you are worth it. emoticon

    Good for you for doing what you need to do for you.
    Have a great New Year!
    1879 days ago
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