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What to do when the heart starts to ache??

Sunday, January 04, 2015

Not the way I wanted to start the new year but I think avoiding social media (with the exception of might be a good thing.

I've come to notice over the recent holidays a group of friends have been avoiding/excluding me. I wish I could openly ask what's going on but I have a feeling the answer will be that it's all in my head (I've had that response before).

I know I'm not perfect and make a lot of mistakes. I'm an adult and I feel childish while I type this. Yes, I understand in the grand scheme of things this is petty and not important. It's just that I have a hard time making friends. I thought that I'd finally met a great group of people. Guess I'm just not the kind to 'click' with others.

My instinct is to make a huge mug of hot chocolate (with extra sugar) and stuff my face with chocolate. While getting to ready to act on this time honored habit I thought I should make a stop here instead.

How is it that I am an adult but can feel like such a child?

I think for the next few minutes or so I'm just going to do some chores and try not to succumb to the chocolate monsters.

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  • NOMIS1
    I know how you feel. Many times I have felt excluded and that I was an "outsider".

    First of all, don't feel sorry for what you feel. What you feel, you feel that's it. How you deal with it is the bigger issue. I know ways to deal, but unfortunately I don't use them often enough and like you I stuff them down with food.

    One thing that does work for me. Sitting on the "pity pot" for 10 minutes. I actually use a timer. I cry sometimes, feel sorry for myself. I fill myself up with the feeling by taking a deep breath and tell myself that anger, or whatever, is filling up my entire body & I imagine it flowing through my body. Then I exhale and say I am l letting the anger go. I do this as many times as necessary. If there is another emotion I am feeling I do the same. I sit quietly feeling sorry for myself but not more than 10 minutes. (most of the time, I don't even sit that long) I may have a cup of tea or for sure drink some of that water. Might sound crazy, but it does work.

    Please know I am always here for you.

    1536 days ago
    *hugs* a big mug of hot chocolate (with a little salt which will make it taste sweeter without adding the sugar) is how I would comfort my heart too. I don't know what to tell you to do, because I don't know what I would do in this situation although I'm in a similar one! I hope it all works out! No matter what.
    1537 days ago
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