2014--Ups and Downs
Wednesday, December 31, 2014
It sure has been a long year in this household---definitely have a great deal of things I don't want to have to repeat---but also some things that were wonderful and I do want to do a repeat of them.
January and half of February was pretty uneventful---busy as usual with basketball season--I work the scoreboard/time clock for all home games. Then on Feb. 17th, my dh fell at work and broke his kneecap. But we did not find out it was broken for about 2 weeks---the doctor for workman's comp wanted him to have an MRI but workman's comp would not cover his injury so we had to go to another doctor to get the order---of course, the day the MRI was scheduled, there was a blizzard coming to the shore----a rarity for us. Luckily our appointment was early enough that the roads were okay getting there. When he came out of the MRI the doctor met him and asked if he had an appointment with the orthopedic doctor---my dh said yes, in 2 days---well, that doctor said, "NO, you need to see him today--you broke your knee cap and need to be seen today" He called over to their office and got a 10 AM appointment. Dh wanted to head home but I said " NO WAY, it's already getting bad out there and we are going straight there so I don't have to clean off the car again. Because of the storm, he was seen in 10 minutes of our arrival and his leg was put in an immobilizer. We headed home and the roads were already getting bad---I was very thankful that we do not live far from that office. Of course, with dh incapacitated, I was the one who had to shovel the snow off the sidewalks---a must with living in the city. And of course, we had a couple more snow storms that winter. I hate being out in the cold and shoveling that white stuff. After his knee healed, now we have to worry about the 2 minincus tears from the injury. He went to rehab but was not progressing very well and still in a lot of pain---so surgery was required for the menincus---on June 30th. So he was home all summer with me----I really missed having my summer days to myself as I work in the school system and have off during the summer so I was pretty depressed about the whole thing. The doctor said his knee was not good but we had to try the gel shot series which did no good, so the next option is knee replacement, which he just had done on Dec. 2nd. They wanted to send him home from the hospital but he was so unsteady on his feet that I got the insurance company to okay a rehab center for 2 weeks---at least I could go to work and finish off the time before the holiday break plus basketball season has started and it made it easier for me to work the games. We actually have a very good boys team this year and I have been doing the table for 20 seasons this year and only missed 3 games in all those years, so it is important for me to be there. Dh was able to come home the Friday before Christmas and has had at home PT which ends on Jan. 2nd, then we start the PT sessions at a center. We also had the sad news that my youngest son and his wife had split up because he works too many hours---we were stunned and still sad about the whole situation. But he has been a great help with things at the house and getting up our Christmas lights and decorations. And our oldest son was able to finish the other side of our roof so that is now set for 30 years!
Now for the good things! My mom has continued to improve from her stroke and is now allowed to drive again---which makes it easier for my sister and myself. Her speech is still slow in coming out but she understands everything, it is just the ability to get her thoughts out that is slow. She turned 80 this September ---which was her milestone she was hoping to reach. So any added days are a bonus for her. She enjoys going to the Senior Center and has made friends there and they go out most Fridays for lunch and it is good to see her active again.
This was a fantastic year in getting to meet up in person with some of my Spark friends--they really helped me get thru this year and helped me get thru all the doldrums I felt. First in April, Terri and her husband, Steve, from California, came to the East Coast for a conference in Florida. They took the Amtrak train up to Union Station in Washington, DC where I picked them up and brought them to my house---we enjoyed 4 days together and had lots of laughs and hugs and chats---and visits to the bathroom as that is the first place Terri and I went together---after my car ride up there, I really had to go! Steve just shook his head and said to her, "You came all this way to go to the bathroom together". He was so funny and they were a delight to have as houseguests. While they were here we went up to Lewes, Delaware to meet the ferry where our friend, Dianne from New Jersey, came across to meet up with us. We went to Panera and just talked and talked. It was so nice to meet up with her while Terri and Steve were here. Then in October, my friend Carol from Ohio flew into Philadelphia where I picked her up and we headed to Massachusetts to meet up with Anne. We stayed up there for 3 days and had a lovely time together--we met Anne's dh while there, too. I had never been to New England so it was really neat to see states I had never been to---we drove thru Conn. and even stayed in Rhode Island while up there. I hope to go back up there soon to see more.
I did gain weight with dh being home and feeling depressed, but I have been able to lose 5 lbs since Nov. 1 and hope to continue losing when school starts back next week. I have been able to maintain exercise for most of the year, although not as much as I should have done in the summer.
Now onto a New Year and hoping things continue to improve on the home front and that this year I can take care of some medical issues for me. We are looking at dh having to have his other knee replaced sometime this coming year once he recovers from this surgery. Right now he is on a long term disability insurance policy we had paid for---thankfully---but he will not be able to go back to his job---I have come to accept that--so wehn that runs out, he is old enough to take Social Security---I look forward to him being able to do some of the chores around the house and yard in the Spring.
Here's hoping for a lot more UPS in 2015.