Do In-Laws have to get along? Vent Blog
Wednesday, December 10, 2014
A few weeks before Thanksgiving my son came to me very upset and asked if his girlfriend and her son could come to our house for dinner. Both my husband and I said yes, goodness they have been dating for years now so why would it bother us. My son then starts to tell me about how he was originally going to go up to her parents house (where she lives) and have dinner there but after a recent fight she had with her parents he wasn't going to do that. Of course this peeked my interest and I wanted to know why.
Son "Well her parents basically said that they have never liked me. That I cry about everything, I don't have any clue on what I'm doing with my life and will never be more than a city boy. I should be more like her father who is a doctor and work 80+ hours a week so I can take care of my girlfriend and her son."
Mind you prior to this I have never felt my blood actually boil in my skin. How DARE someone that does not know me, my husband or our family put down my son like that! and how DARE you look down your nose at where we live....again you don't know me and if making my husband wok 80+ a week to live in a big home in the suburbs is what you want fine, I want my man home with me. Then to say that my son should be like a man that is someone other than his OWN father or mother....Heck NO! My son's lost their biological mother young (I am blessed to have them and to have them love me enough for the "mom" title).....and what he was telling me, seeing how upset he was just burned me to the soul.
When I say that these two have been dating for years I mean just that....these two have been together for at least four years now. They talk about marriage but have not set anything. I have been having my concerns about this for a while because in the time they have been together she has not worked one day. She and her son live at home with her parents (just as her older brothers do). So she has a 7 year old, lives at home, does not work, does not go to school.....Yet they called MY SON a bunch of names and basically disrespected his father and me......yes I was angry and still am.
Then here the other night my son comes in from being with his GF all day and tells us that her parents would like for us to come up there for Christmas. Now I know that I should be the bigger person and accept.....but instead of that out from my mouth was "oh HE_ _ NO, I am not going up to some snobby persons house so that they can spend the night looking down their nose at me and my family" (and a few other choice words followed)
I'm still just livid over this and I think that given the chance I might actually hurt someone! Do the In-Law parents have to get along? I can forgive and forget, but not when it comes to hurting my children. At this point they are the LAST people I want to spend a holiday with!