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I Could Always Have More...

Tuesday, November 25, 2014

But then again, I could always have less.

I've spent most of my life being pretty thankful for what I have, and I don't see it in others too often. Not that it makes me better than them...maybe just more mindful? Or with less expectations? I can tell you I see it on this site a lot more than day-to-day life, so maybe it's just taking time for more reflection? Anyway, it being that time of the year and all, I've been thinking about this topic quite a bit.

If you take the good with the bad, then you take the bad with the good, right? Sounds logical. That would mean there are two sides to every coin, as they say, and I prefer to focus on the good side (most of the time!).

My husband, though he drives me crazy sometimes...I don't want to live without. I'm sure I could survive, but I'm not sure I'd want to. When I heard about the lockdown close to his work, I imagined a police officer coming to my door to inform me my husband was dead. That may sound depressing, but it wasn't. It was a wake-up call. Cherish the people you love, because you never know what tomorrow, the next 6 hours, the next 5 minutes, might mean.

My child, coming to that age where she's finding her independence and a little attitude-y. I see shared times-of-the-month and arguments in our future. I've had a few friends who have had a hard time conceiving. Whose sole want in life is to have a child, something many of us take for granted, because we can easily do it. And though I'm sure there are going to be times where looking at her now 12 yr old face and picturing that peacefully cooing, adoring baby are going to be hard, I HAVE that memory, to cherish for the rest of my days, and am ultimately blessed because of it.

My job is fulfilling, but sometimes I come home wanting to tear my hair out (and it's usually the adults, not the kids, that are the cause of But I have a job, at a time where so many people are looking for work. The pay is not great, but I also work 183 days out of the year, to be exact. I don't know anyone else outside of the school system that can say that. And I get to be around 5 year-olds, who are quite possibly the most interesting bunch of people to work with.

I don't go on fancy vacations to France, but I'm sitting in my jammies typing this on my own computer. To a bunch of people I'd have never met without internet access. Politicians piss me off, but I have a vote, a voice, to change things in a way other people would be just shot dead for. I don't eat caviar and drink champagne, but I can go to a store where the produce people (we have PRODUCE PEOPLE) are dumping out fresh fruits and vegetables from crates, that I did not grow, for us to pick through and choose the bruise-less, best looking ones (?!). I'm not in the best shape, but I can walk, jog, lift dumbells above my head, hug my child, lift a small one, drive a car, wave to a friend. Carry my groceries from my CAR to my KITCHEN, in my house, with running water and plumbing, a roof that doesn't leak, and a heater to keep me warm in winter.

I am blessed. And I am thankful.
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    agree agree agree. Very well said, and like you said those simple life things many of us don't have and want, BUT like you said even if we don't have those either be grateful for what we do have, cause it is enough emoticon
    2124 days ago
    Great blog....Great attitude. I know how fortunate I am, too, and how OFTEN I lose that perspective! The older I get the more I see how fleeting our time here is, and how lucky I have been.
    Happy Thanksgiving!
    2124 days ago
    Love your way of thinking and I must emulate it more!
    2125 days ago
    Well, Miss Pollyanna, you are so much like me! Why focus on the negative when there are positives? I have lost a husband, and it is devastating, but I am stronger for it and was blessed with having him for 10 years.

    We cannot appreciate the good without having something to compare it to and that would be the bad, right?

    Have a wonderful blessed Thanksgiving, Shay!
    2125 days ago
    Shay, it is clear you have your priorities straight and I truly had an appreciation for what you had to say. I was very humbled to read your blog today. I must comment that Krys added a very well thought out and valuable point too. Just because many may appear unappreciative, deep down they are still grateful for what they have, it's just harder to appreciate it as they go through the struggles of life.
    I am with you, I may be driven crazy with certain people in my life that I love, but I cannot fathom nor do I want to experience living life without them! Well Said Shay! Happy Thanks Giving. Love you! emoticon
    2125 days ago
    Thanks, well said.
    2125 days ago
    emoticon Life is good, indeed!
    2125 days ago
  • GHK1962
    What you said.
    What the Button Lady said.

    I will add that it is okay to sometimes to have wants. Sometimes it is okay to moan a little.

    But as you say, being mindful, and being thankful for what we have is something we should always be thinking too.

    (And I want to say, the way you ended the blog. It was more than just the words you wrote that made it good. It was the way you wrote. How it sped up at the end. The technique matched the mood ... or set it. Either way, it worked well.)
    2126 days ago
    Very good blog, Sparky! I'm in total agreement about everything you say here. The threat of losing a loved one never fails to remind us of how much we love that person. It's happened to me countless times, and the feeling of relief and the rush of love when it happens are some of my best memories, despite whatever pain led up to those moments.

    And living our comfortable lives sometimes seriously skews our perception of our circumstances. For example, I am now embarrassed about the status I posted on my page yesterday: "have to walk through the heavy rain to the bus stop. Oh no!" I mean, how SPOILED is THAT?! Then I came home and read in the newspaper about a three-year-old child who was starved to death by her mother and step-father in Osaka,less than an hour's train ride away. Oh, oh, it breaks my heart. Why could that child not be saved? How she must have suffered!

    I am truly thankful for the blessings of my life, but I always want to remain mindful of the less fortunate people in the world (who include people a lot more financially well off than I am, by the way) and to pray for everyone to find peace and happiness.
    2126 days ago
  • HEYRED221
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    2126 days ago
    In general I think people are grumpy and unhappy because of their life circumstances. They are not as overtly thankful as what they once were because they are so busy. It's not that they don't appreciate what they have its that times are so hard. To pay the bills both parents have to work, leaving their kids to take care of themselves or pay to have some one else care for them. Families no longer live in the same state never mind the same towns. Grandparents are no longer in the home or around the corner but are now strangers that the grand kids see a few times a year.

    Marriages are disposable, parents have no time to talk and really listen to their kids. It is a domino effect. Couple that with so many people being out of a job, poor health, no health care, not having enough food or having no home at all and there are people in this world who live some miserable lives. Despite these hardships many are thankful, they know that in other ways they too are blessed. One just has to understand that it is often hard to smile through the pain.
    2126 days ago
  • _BABE_
    It's true. We need to get perspective on our woes which in the scheme of things are not woes at all.

    Doesn't mean I will stop bitching but I may do it less often....and maybe as a result things may just turn around for the better.

    By the way thankful for a new friend like you! emoticon
    2126 days ago
    Too true - we forget to think of our blessings when we're whining. One of my favorite comments during the summer when the Emergency Department is hot (78 or so) - "I work inside, not in the sun, rain, snow, or mud. I don't haul heavy things on my back, or do stoop labor" (and my co-workers yell "shut up, Meri, I'm still hot!") (OK, sometimes I whine it, too)

    Black Friday - the day after we share how grateful we are for what we have, and we go out to get MORE stuff!
    2126 days ago

    Comment edited on: 11/25/2014 2:11:24 PM
    That was simply put - quite beautiful.

    Nothing more to say :)
    2126 days ago
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