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Wednesday, November 19, 2014

I realize that I mostly blog about my emotions and family relationships. The reason is that I've finally figure out I need to process my emotions instead of stuffing them down with food. I hope you understand.

Anyway, things have been going pretty well. Son is doing chores, his girlfriend got a part-time job. Son is probably going to need sinus surgery (we find out Friday) so we are holding off on pushing the job situation with him for the moment).

This week has been super stressful for me because son's girlfriend doesn't drive yet (she is 18). So son and I have had to drive her back and forth to her job. Also, she is up in the mornings now when I usually have the house to myself to get ready for work, etc. And when I get home at night she is so excited to talk about her day that I don't get to relax. None of this is a big deal - I mean I'm trying to be there for her. I guess it's just that I'm having a hard time adjusting to all the changes that it's making me anxious.

So the girlfriend made an appointment for today to take her driving test, with one of our cars (with permission). The only problem was that our rear window defogger doesn't work right and it's been raining since last night. Plus, I was going to have to take her since son bailed at the last minute and it is in another town. So I warned her yesterday she might not be able to do it and she said she understood and we would play it by ear. This morning she tried to talk me into it anyway and argued with me about weather, it's effects on the car, etc. Finally, I just said "I don't know." She said she would cancel the appointment, but now it looks like my son is taking her.

I guess this is a good thing because I don't have to take her, but I'm pretty sure they are both made at me and it doesn't feel like a good thing.

Am I being selfish?
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    You are going above and beyond for her. I do not think you are being selfish one bit!!!!
    Sorry to hear you have lost your alone time. It's important to take time for yourself. Don't forget that. emoticon
    1639 days ago
    I don't think you are being selfish. You have already opened up your home to the girlfriend and you drive her around. Sometimes, it's okay to say no. It's your home, your car. You should be able to stand your ground and not feel guilty about it.
    1647 days ago
    It's hard to deal with, but try saying aloud "They are probably mad at me and that's OK." We all get mad sometimes, rightly or not. I am working on being more comfortable with telling people that I'm overwhelmed or not focusing or even just feeling cranky :) It's great that son and girlfriend are taking positive steps. But it's still irritating I'm sure to have to deal with these almost grown people in your home, eating your food, etc. DH and I are in that situation with DS and we try to be supportive but sometimes we lose patience.
    1648 days ago
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    I'm wondering if it is possible that you are doing too much for them. Maybe it's time for them to get out on their own.
    I can understand why you are stressed. I would be too. And I know I would be stuffing it all inside me with food.
    I hope you can get things worked out for your health.

    1648 days ago
    I love my early morning alone time and can't imagine having to give it up. Hope things get better at your house. emoticon
    1649 days ago
    You are going above and beyond for your son's girl friend. I totally understand not getting your alone time and how difficult that can be for someone who tends to be a bit anxious. Don't feel guilty. Proudly do what you can reasonably to help your child and his girlfriend, but let go of the expectation that you will always please them. You can't. What you can do is take care of yourself. You can do it!!
    1649 days ago
    if they are mad at you they will get over it, they are becoming adults and need to fend for them selves, plus he should be there to support her, if she passes they will forget about it ,if she fails she will know that you told her to rechedule
    1649 days ago
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