Last night I was talking to my husband and I started to think about how we all measure our success. What is the key ingredient that we see daily or weekly that is that “ah-ha” moment that gives us that gratification of success?
Is it the numbers on the scale?
Is it the fitness minutes that we get?
Is it not eating sugar, or staying perfect on our meals?
Have you ever stopped to think what it is that makes you feel like you are successful? If so do you give yourself the praise you deserve?
For many years now I have been trying to “diet” and become that skinny girl that I used to be. (You know the one that most of us were in our 20s but always felt we were overweight thanks to society!) I would be great for a few days, weeks and sometimes even months. Yet looking back I went about it ALL wrong. The only time I was successful at losing weight and keeping it off for a period of time was back in 2001-2006. That is when I lost the baby weight, went through a divorce (still the BEST diet ever) and was going to Weight Watchers weekly at my work. Looking back I was in the best shape, weight wise, of my life. However there were many things I was missing…like working out and allowing myself to have the success of all my hard work.
Back then, and even up to the start of this month I would look at my weight loss as a journey, but still call it a diet. I would tell people what I was doing and ALWAYS refer to it as my diet. I never would say that these are the life choices I am making to make me a better person, inside and out. Why would this be, well that is simple I did not need to change ME….I just had to change my eating and everything would be fine. MAN WAS I WRONG! Nothing was fine because while I knew what I needed to do and “talked the talk”….I was still not owning up to where my problem really was, what I really needed to do to make this work!
November 1, 2014 – This will be a celebration date for the rest of my life. The reason why is because this is the day that I had my wake up moment and put my foot down, and when I say that I really mean BOTH my feet. It was high time I took control of my life and put myself first. I was going to finish this running program and I was going to track all of the foods I ate. I had been given a wonderful gift from my work of the UP band and I was not going to let it go to waste. I started tracking all my foods and steps that Monday the 3rd….I have grabbed the bull by the horns and I’m not letting go.
So back to the original question….How do you measure success?
As I sat there last night talking to my husband and telling him that I have lost 7.4 pounds from the first of this month. He asked me what diet I am doing now. I honestly laughed when he asked me that because I’m sure many of us have “tried it all” and in doing that our husbands have supported this craziness we have lived. It was after the laughter that I had my first non-scale successful moment. I say that because I looked at him and said “I’m not on a diet”. Talk about PRIDE when I said these magical five words. I explained to him how I felt at the start of this month and why I’ve been dragging him and me to the gym. I showed him my food journal on Spark and all the fitness time I have logged so far this month.
I said “Honey I’m not on a diet, I will eat what I want and not feel guilt, I will work out when I want and as long as I get in my 3 days of running I will feel successful. I am no longer looking at what I need to do for me to be healthy as a diet because I always fail when I have that mind set. Now I am going to live my life and take it one week at a time.” It was so freeing saying these things to him. To share this information and admit that I was not on a diet, I was on a mission. A weekly one where I take the time to look over the week and make the changes I need to for myself to stay on track with this.
Here I am doing the work that I need to do so that I can continue to have these successful moments. I am going to be patting myself on the back more and not just for the scale moving down. While that is all great it is not the thing that will make this life of mine the best that it can be. For that I need to not feel guilt for enjoying food at parties or taking a day off from working out. I will listen to my husband, family and friends when they tell me I look great and not let that inner voice try and chime in to knock down that feeling of success. I will continue to put on my clothes daily and have the few seconds of looking in the mirror to notice how differently they feel on my body. All these small little things I will be enjoying because life, my life is from here on out going to be made on these small moments. They are my “stop and smell the roses” moments, after all life is far too short to focus on anything else.