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One Year Ago today part 2

Friday, October 31, 2014

Now for the good changes. My son told me when I got discharged they wanted me to go to their house to recover until I could eventually get my own place. They found an outpatient therapy center about 15 minutes from their house that they got me to Monday – Friday for 2 months until my insurance ran out of coverage for therapy. I went from 9 to noon and had an hour of physical therapy, and hour of speech or occupational therapy, depending on the day, and an hour of a couple of different computer programs to help my skills each day. I was still using a walker when I first went since my balance has been affected. By January 1st I decided I didn't want to use it anymore since I was using it then more when we went out. At first I also used it in their open downstairs area, but not in my room upstairs. I had started going for walks outside with my walker, first a few blocks and then further. I must have looked a little crazy walking down the streets with my walker!

My son said I could go anywhere I wanted, whether I stayed in that area or went to a whole different one. Just please not to go back where I was and my I was doing so much care for my grandkids. And to take care of the grandkids was also somewhat helping my daughters, neither of which was working. I also got to go for 6 weeks to California because someone else paid for it. Otherwise I couldn't have done it. There I spent the time with a wonderful friend and her husband and son who were so good to me. She is an avid hiker and even leads some hikes. We went for short hikes a number of times there. I got to spend several days at Newport Beach, where her husband's family has a house that they take turns sharing. I went to Catalina Island with them, to the San Diego Safari Park with her, to Kauai, Hawaii where they have a condo they frequently rent for vacations, and to Yosemite Park and then over the mountain from there to Devil's Postpile near Mammoth Lakes, CA. There was also other things we did and I saw amazing things I didn't think I would ever see! It was awesome! When I got back I had my apartment lined up in Arlington, TX to move into. I got my car in February brought by carrier also from Silver City, and passed the test for my TX licensing. I had to take a driving test since I put on the application I'd had a stroke, but I passed and all legal! License plates too. I'm now in a one bedroom apartment that I really like over here. I'm only 3 ½ hours from my middle son and his kids in OK. I found a church home very involved in missions both here and abroad. I am going to volunteer hopefully for their food bank or whatever they need if I can't get in there. I have been exploring areas around me. I can't do near what I used to do, and I get very tired. But I do as much as I can, even when it's really hard sometimes but worth it. I do my stretching every day, and strength training 6 days a week. Upper body one day, lower the next with Sundays a rest day from exercise. I work daily on exercises to improve my right hand and arm that shake a significant amount, and my balance which is not good but better than when in the hospitals. I work the fine motor skills daily too through different ways I learned in the therapies I have been to. I have amazing friends on SP that I am in contact with on my computer almost every day. I'm very happy over here.

Before the stroke, I had prayed a lot for God to help my daughters get on their feet and get out of my house. Instead I had a stroke. I don't believe God caused the stroke because I don't believe He sends bad things on me. But I do believe sometimes He lets them happen because He has a bigger plan in place. He knew the amazing changes waiting for me over here and things I would experience and do. There is a plan for my life. Things did not happen the way I thought they would, but things are much grander than if my plan had happened. I lost a great amount of things that may be in Silver City at my daughter's house that she has now. I know they were at one time she said but I don't know if she still has them. But it's about 800 miles one way and I can't go get them and furniture isn't that great and I know she's using that stuff. I really don't want any of it. There are a few movies, some papers, some books, clothes, etc I would like to have but most of it has been replaced by me or someone else and I'm doing fine. My needs are pretty simple but I do have to have my laptop and internet, which I have. Because my oldest son is such a "techie" he got a few clothes, my purse, and my laptop when he went there before he got to the hospital I Phoenix the first time. Because of flights and time he couldn't take much.
Life is really good for me now. I'm disabled because of some results from the stroke but my life is still full. I couldn't handle the things I did before, including the full time job then. I miss people there but know that what's best for me is to stay away and let them work out things without leaning on me, and also without me enabling my daughters because of the grandkids. They're managing and I have been in contact with them by phone. The youngest I hear from a lot more by text and I don't know if the oldest has a phone now since she is in a city 2 hours now from my youngest. For a while they lived together. But time will heal any remaining wounds I believe for us. My 3 sons are much easier to reach and 2 of them especially I either talk to or text weekly or more. Oldest is super busy but he's close.

It's just so amazing to me the changes that have happened and how awesome they have worked out. Far beyond my dreams!
This picture I took of myself earlier this week at a park I was walking in. There is a stream behind me but I don't know if it'll show up. The picture that is used with my login name was taken by me in July this year. Just so you can see I'm doing better than the picture in my last blog. And my hair has grown back in! I color it because I didn't like the shade of gray hair that grew out on me. Some people look really good with gray or white hair and I love it. Just not on me, at least not now. Anyway, don't be afraid of change because it usually bring amazing things if not immediately then down the road! We don't grow if we don't change.

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    Hi Linda… it appears I stopped by this blog when it was first posted… well, now that I read part 1, I came back to read this blog posting…. It really is wonderful how things have worked out…so happy for you. “Anyway, don't be afraid of change because it usually bring amazing things if not immediately then down the road! We don't grow if we don't change.” Words of the wise! I will keep your words imprinted in my mind & soul. Cheers, Risa
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  • GRACED777
    You have come so far in the last year!
    1579 days ago
    I'm sorry I am so late reading this but as you know so well---LIFE happens!

    You are still my hero and inspiration! I thank God for you, such a beautiful example for us all.


    1586 days ago
    Linda, you have come so far!
    1587 days ago
    Wow! You have come so far! You are truly an inspiration!
    1588 days ago
    Wow... Recovery is GRAND... One year ago today!

    WHAT a Trooper you ARE!!!

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    1589 days ago
    You are amazing in your strength and courage. Your outlook on life is a blessing to read- thank you so much for sharing- emoticon Best to you on your continued journey.
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  • JUDITH316
    I had to come back and re-read,

    emoticon Linda for sharing these 2 blogs, you are 1 beautiful gal, you are shining and giving God glory as you share your story. And yes God had and continues to have an emoticon plan for your life. I thank God that He has brought you along my path; you are special and you are an emoticon friend! emoticon
    1591 days ago

    Comment edited on: 11/12/2014 11:54:09 PM
    Dear Linda,

    You have come so far. You have a real zest for life.

    Thanks, Bruce

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    1594 days ago
    You sound so positive , even though you have been through so much! emoticon
    1596 days ago
    It sounds to me as though you are doing better being nearer to your sons and that you are in a pretty good situation now. You really are an inspiration - you have come so far, and a lot of it through your hard work.
    1598 days ago
    Love the new pic and such a pretty area with the stream in it.
    First of all seeing you walk down the street is not crazy...I see ones do that all the time down here on trails. I saw an older lady doing it and I said "Good for you" to her! She was just a trucking along too!
    I am so happy for you that you have been doing things and going places that you never dreamed of. On my page you said you probably won't be able to do the long walks like you did before the stroke...but, I am telling you ---with you anything is possible! emoticon
    And even if you don't, so are happy and are getting out there and doing your best! One day at time and I am hoping you will be stronger and stronger with each day! Best wishes! Thank you for sticking with us here on SP...we need inspiring people like you here! emoticon
    1600 days ago
  • JUDITH316
    emoticon Linda for sharing these 2 blogs, you are 1 beautiful gal, you are shining and giving God glory as you share your story. And yes God had and continues to have an emoticon plan for your life. I'm so happy we have met and become such great friend's...Thanks for your support and friendship, You are such an inspiration and a blessing in which I thank God...

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    1601 days ago
    Read both of your blogs, and am amazed how well you have done in this past year. It is good that you are in your new home close to your sons now. Your life has really turned around for the better in many ways that count. I like your red hair and think you are looking beautiful and happy! emoticon
    1602 days ago
  • ALICIA363
    and you look great!
    1602 days ago
    What a year! It's amazing what strengths we have when we really need it. emoticon
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  • AMBER281
    What a year you have had!
    Thank you for sharing your story with us. You are an amazing strong and beautiful women!
    1602 days ago
  • KANOE10
    emoticon You look lovely and I like your hair. I am glad you are happy and in a good place. You are showing great strength and have made many positive changes for yourself. You are inspirational my friend.
    1602 days ago
    It has been an amazing year! I'm so glad everything has turned out so well for you. Isn't it strange how life works!!
    1602 days ago
    Linda, thanks so much for sharing your amazing story with us! You are such an inspiration to all of us! Amazing how you have recovered, you are indeed blessed and I know that you are thankful to God for your recovery and your new life!

    God has a plan for all of his people and He will put us on the path He has for us! Isn't it wonderful to see God work in our lives? emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1603 days ago
    Hopefully you remember that you are a Shero to many of us... taking whatever gets dished into your life and fighting your way back. I completely agree about God's plans being so superior to any we come up with on our own, and we haven't a clue as we look forward, but looking back, as you have today with these two blogs? One stands in awe!

    May your blessings continue, as you LIVE your life to the fullest and best, making choices where you can that support recovery and health.

    1603 days ago
    You inspire me so much, Linda! You have been through so much in your life, not just the stroke, and you have such a wonderful, can-do attitude! I am so thankful to know you and have you as part of my life!
    1603 days ago
  • CHERYLA2012
    Hugs to you!

    Things happen for a reason. Sometimes we know why, sometimes we don't.

    I am so proud of you for all you've accomplished and all you're going to in the future.
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