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Tuesday, October 21, 2014

So two blogs I just read made me think of something that happened today.

In one, Bean remarked that she calls certain people highlighters, because of the snazzy, bright gear they wear to go exercising in.

In another, someone made the remark that they were ashamed of their weight, and therefore embarrassed to tell about working on it.

There's a teacher at school who has been working on it. I know this, because one day I saw her (I don't really know her) and commented on the fact that she looks like she lost weight- her face looks smaller.

So weird that you can tell a person their face looks smaller and they beam. I bet aliens somewhere are is going on in THAT place?! Maybe that's why we haven't been invaded like in the movies. They think we shrink faces. emoticon Or enlarge them emoticon Whatevs.

I told the (male) assistant principal the other day (in front of her) doesn't she look great!? He agreed, looking at me weirdly. And she beamed yet again.

So today! I see her walking down the hall, wearing her highlighter outfit (right after work!), obviously getting ready to do some 'working on it'!

I whooped down the hall, shouting at her to Work it! and she laughed and beamed some more.

Now maybe this chick wishes I would shut the eff up. Maybe she's embarrassed that I keep commenting on her slimmer silhouette. But I doubt it.

B*tch be workin' HARD. and it SHOWS!

Shame makes me mad. I've felt it. I still do, occasionally. But it really. p*sses. me. off.

And if you're doing things to change what shames you, Shame makes me doubly mad.

I have been...I have done...I did not...I tried...I failed...

If it ends in Shame, it makes me mad. Because for every BAD response to those lines, I can come up with a bajillion that are good. Try this out with me!

I have been.... fat most of my life.
I have been....a good mother.

I have done...a lot of stupid sh*t.
I have done...a lot of really selfless things.

I did not...try as hard as I could have.
I did not...treat people badly in my life.

I tried...and I failed. a lot.
I tried...and I never gave up trying.

I finishing college.
I failed...and succeeded at continuing knowledge.

I've never met an Ad Executive on Spark. If you read this, and you are one, let me know. We sell ourselves short.

We often don't believe in the product.

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    2087 days ago
    I love, love, love this blog!

    Your friend loved you for telling her she looked thinner! There are people who don't think it's cool to mention anyone's weight. And sure, it's not cool to like, fixate on other people's bodies, especially critically (we've all known people like that!) But people who don't believe in ever mentioning weight loss are usually people who have stopped trying/caring to lose. I can understand it, I guess.

    I love my bf because he told me back in July that "you have gained weight since the last time I saw you." It made me angry, but it was good! It was true.
    2120 days ago
    Great Blog . . . Thanks for sharing it!
    2121 days ago
    Don't have to be an ad exec to sell ourselves short. I like the way you refuted your negative thinking ALOT. Thank you!
    2121 days ago
    What an awesome blog!

    Thank you for this today.
    2121 days ago
  • JAMER123
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    Love the highlighters!! Hadn't thought about them in this fashion. Thanks for a great blog!!
    2121 days ago
    You have the BEST attitude, Sparky!! I'll bet that you totally made that lady's day, if not her whole month! So often people don't bother saying anything encouraging. Even when they notice acquaintances are making great strides. The world needs more people like you! emoticon
    2121 days ago
    Hallelujah amen and s!@#
    I think you highlighted that lady's day! emoticon
    2121 days ago
    Your blog speaks for many of us. Love the new you (photo)! emoticon emoticon
    2121 days ago
    Well doene, Sparky!
    2121 days ago
    What a fantastic blog. GOOD FOR YOU for noticing these things and then bringing them to our attention :-)

    2121 days ago
  • HEYRED221
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    2121 days ago
    Sometimes we get caught up in cliches...

    We have all met or have been the funny fat kid. Shaming him/her self while trying to be funny in hopes that people will laugh and like them, because if they didn't make others laugh, didn't make them feel good, then they might not have even given them the time of day.

    It's sad but people allow their weight to define them, even though its only one characteristic of many they possess. Shaming has become a coping mechanism, it is how they survived elementary, middle, high school, college. By adulthood their self confidence has taken to many hits and they often need professional help to change their way of thinking.

    Yeah, I know. Not my usual funny response... sorry...

    2121 days ago
  • GHK1962
    Wifey tells me if she can't be the fastest or strongest or whatever-est ... she'll at least have the clothes! Highlight away is what I say.

    As for the other stuffs - people being embarrassed. I wish they wouldn't be either. But I know some are, and try not to embarrass them more. I might somehow give them silent encouragement though.

    But for those that aren't embarrassed and are going for it, I'm all "OH YEAH" High-freakin-5!

    And ... adds a couple because you were saying to try this with you ...

    I did as well as everyone else.
    I did not...sit out of joining in and I had fun.

    I tired...and came in last.
    I Tri-ed (ok, this is a cheater one.)

    I getting that promotion
    I failed...and worked harder so that the next time I did get that promotion

    Nice blog again DinoSpark!

    (Edited to say that I obviously can't count. I said I would add a couple and I added 3! Stoopid math thingy.)
    2121 days ago

    Comment edited on: 10/22/2014 2:38:10 PM
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    2121 days ago
    emoticon Look at you Girl !!!
    2121 days ago
    Oh Sparky... I just love you & this .... I'm feeling down today & I'm not sure where it came from. But I was starting to bash myself again ~ and then I read this and mentally smacked myself & my attitude. Why is it easier to focus on our negatives than on the positives?

    I love that you are cheering on that lady at school & I know she is loving it! You are awesome to do that & to make her feel special. That could be the encouragement she needs to keep it going.

    Keep on with your bad self, sparky! You are terrific :)
    2122 days ago
    I like your attitude, Sparky! I liked all the items on your list, but especially the last two. "I never gave up trying." I often feel so tired and defeated after a long day, but always wake up renewed in the morning. It's true that I never give up, and what's so moving is that EVERYBODY ALIVE can say the very same thing. We're all choosing to be here, to keep on living, and to try to work things out. That's just amazing when you stop and think about it. And "I succeeded at continuing knowlege." Whether you finished college or not makes absolutely no difference. It's easy to see that you are a seeker of knowledge and truth, and I agree with you that THAT is all that matters. I LOVE academia, but I'd rather be on the honor roll for extra-curricular real-life accomplishments, like never treating people badly. (I don't have nearly as high a score there as I'd like, by the way. I didn't comfort boys in kindergarten with unconventional hairstyles as you did, for example. I would have been one of the ones making fun of that person. I always thank God I've lived long enough to change completely.) This was a very good blog, Sparky.
    2122 days ago
  • no profile photo CD14871526
    Great blog!
    We DO sell ourselves short ... and it needs to stop!
    Love the 'highlighters' ... I wear bright-colored tshirts all the time, not just for working out, and I call myself a 'walking rainbow', lol!
    2122 days ago
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