ARE YOU MY MOTHER?
Friday, October 03, 2014
My mother has progressively worsening dementia. She was officially diagnosed after an ischemic stroke in March of 2014, but had been having symptoms long before that.
I’m not going to write a lengthy blog about what dementia IS or how to live with it or be a caregiver for it. I just want to share some “episodes” with you.
I know there are many books written about dementia.
Let me read you from MY book, inspired by my mother:
Mother, you don’t have any pants on.
Yes I do.
No you don’t
( Repeat 5 times)
I do too. I have TWO pair of pants on.
Take her hand and put it on her leg.
She looks up and says. . .
WHY did you take my pants?
Talk to her for 15 minutes and have to tell her 5 times that “My name is Karen and I’m your daughter.” She smiles a little and says "I know that but then it goes right up to the top of my head and out the side."
While in the hospital.
Will you take me for a walk down the hall and show me my house?
Mother, do you think your house is here in the hospital?
Yes. It is down the hall but I can’t find it.
Mother, this hospital is in Temple, Texas.
I know that!
Your house is in Belton.
Completely lost empty look.
Belton is 15 miles from here.
Do you think they built your house in the middle of the hospital?
NO. (Looks at me like I’m stupid) They built the hospital ON after the house was built! (Looks at me like she wants to say, Are you stupid!)
I went to pick her up for a trip to Wal-mart. She wasn’t dressed which was unusual. I got her clothes out and put them on the bed. She walked around a while and I handed her a bra. She could NOT figure out how to put it on. I helped her and then we had the same problem with her shirt.
She returned to normal after about an hour. Didn’t remember a thing.
She returns to normal, or what is normal for her, after each incident. In her normal state she can function in her home and absolutely refuses to admit she needs help. She'll be 92 this month.