I'll keep this blog brief as it is just simple reflection on my feelings at the moment.
I was just put on blast by a friend (or soon to be ex-friend) over some misguided communications and hurt feelings that were never reconciled.
Now, I take responsibility for my roles in my relationships and lord knows I am not perfect, but I am always, ALWAYS willing to step up to the plate to right my wrong doings or short comings to make a relationship or interaction a positive one.
Here is my reflection (as posted in FB):
that moment of your day when someone lights you up about how they truly feel about you. Stab your character, your personality, your faults, and your flaws. It's in these moments that I don't feel defeated or beaten, I feel sorry. And not sorry that anything of it is true, rather sorry that they have such a misguided perception of who I am and feel the need to put me on blast to feel better.
I recognize that not every mean thing that comes from a persons mouth, heart, or mind are reflections of me, rather reflections of them themselves. I fully acknowledge that I am not everyone's cup of tea or joe or whatever the drink of choice is. But what I do acknowledge is that I am who I am and I refuse to allow others to dictate or project their disrespectful notions my way.
I refuse to allow anyone to make me feel inforior without my consent---thank you Evelyn R. and I also refuse to accept peoples negative perceptions of their unhappiness being communicated in hurtful and hateful ways. If you do not like me or the things that I do, what gives you right to judge me? If you were a friend, none the less, do you feel it is appropriate because I will forgive you. Forgiveness is earned and so is respect. Violating those make being the better and bigger person significantly more challenging the older I get.
Remember friends and readers, no one deserves to be put on blast, for anything. As adults functioning in a semi-educated society, we should have better social skills to be able to communicate our concerns, our worries, our woes with people in our life in a constructive and kind manner, without being hurtful, using inappropriate language, and letting rage take over the message of the memo. No one deserves to be mistreated, there is no excuse for it, and it should not be condoned.
It's true, if you have nothing nice to say, say nothing----until you are able to change your tone and your attitude.
Kindness is a virtue. We all should practice it.
Peace and Love!