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Rough Night but Proud of Myself

Sunday, September 07, 2014

Last night DH and I went to a game party at a friend's house. It was my first time "out" with my new eyes. You wouldn't believe the trauma I went through in my head because I am 1 1/2 weeks away from being able to wear eye makeup!! emoticon

Anyway, got to the party and due to my insecurities, had two drinks instead of the one I had planned and then did not keep track of my food. After the party was emotionally uncomfortable, so stuffed my feelings at Jack in the Box.

Got home, went to bed, and discovered that DS, age 19 had stolen alcohol from our bedroom while we were gone. This is not the first time this has happened, so even though it was after midnight, I decided to call him out on it, gently.

So here's where I think I actually did something right. DS and I argued, but it was a rational, thoughtful argument. I let him know that he needed to step up and admit to his mistakes, be a man, and start taking care of himself.

I know that it is the self-confidence that I gained through Spark and the support of all of you that allowed me to have this discussion and to realize that I can not be responsible for my son's life decisions. My happiness is not based on how he is doing. Or my husband for that matter. I am a successful, confident woman without them. Which is hard to say, but I'm also glad that it is true.
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    I SO love this blog...I wish more women were as certain of their own necessary self care as you are my friend. I always say if we don't learn to take care of ourselves we surely won't be there to take care of our loved ones will we?

    Hugs to you! Love this blog...just love it! emoticon
    1675 days ago
    Good work. Happy that the confidence boost was there for you.
    1682 days ago
    Way to go for have talked with your DS. I do have a teenage son too. It's kinda hard to deal with because he is not completely kid nor adult. so I understand how complicated life is sometime with him. emoticon emoticon
    1686 days ago
    Of course you are!

    Good job on talking to your son. As far as the "mistakes" at the party went, learn what you can from them and then put them behind you. Use them as a tool. That makes them catalysts for positive change instead of true "mistakes".
    1686 days ago
    It is never easy to confront someone. Hopefully your DS will take your message to heart. Blessings! emoticon
    1686 days ago
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