Modeling comment struck a nerve....

Tuesday, September 02, 2014

I had a comment over the weekend that was said to me that kind of hit a nerve. The comment was from my husbands uncle regarding my daughter. Now don't get me wrong... I am bias and I think my daughter is beautiful. But this comment kind of had me a little mad.

The comment came at the BBQ we were at on Saturday. My daughter was dressing up with her cousin and they came outside all dolled up in feathers and make up. It was cute!

The uncle then says to me, "you know your daughter is a very pretty girl. She would be great as a model. She has the body for it". Now that is the comment that got me.... "She has the body for it"!

I hate that things need to be labeled like that and that people only think you could be a model if you are skinny. That is just not true at all. I have also had comments like, "your son has a runners body". What exactly is a "runners body"? Nice and lean?

It always hits a cord with me when I hear comments like that. And that is exactly what I DON'T want my daughter to hear. Yes, she is very thin and yes, I think she is beautiful. But I don't want her to think that the only way she will be good enough is to stay that thin.

Society really needs to change. The views on subjects like this need to change. Because comments like this make other people then think that they are not good enough.

What are your thoughts on this? Does comments like this strike a cord with you too?

I am trying to make sure my daughter grows up knowing that she can do anything that she puts her mind to. I am trying to make sure that she knows to always be herself and never change for anyone. I am trying to ensure that she grows to stay healthy and happy like she is right now. This song says it all... and yes, I shared this with her as well. Because we should like ourselves just the way we are!

She is a healthy girl and I hope she stays this way....

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    I have a girl myself and I agree commit like that shouldn't be said in front of younger children whos view and things are still developing and what if one of those commits changes her view about herself forever ?? People need to be very filtered when you say things in front of younger children/teens its a matter of respect. You did better then me I would have called him out right there in front of my daughter and explain to her why his commit was rude and disrespectful to me as the mother and to her as a child/teen . Body image is warped in this world if you ask me , beauty is internal nothing more !

    2328 days ago
    He clearly meant it as a compliment, but it is unfortunate that he is reinforcing a stereotype body image that a woman's worth is tied to her beauty and her thinness. Keep reinforcing positive body images at home, teach her to recognize society's stereotypes, and encourage her to grow to be healthy and strong in mind and body!

    Having you as a positive role model helps!
    2328 days ago
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    I would take it as a compliment and let it go.

    She may indeed have the long lean look that is associated with a model's figure. I am sure the comment was meant to be flattering to you and your daughter.

    I wonder if the same red flag would go up for you if her shape had not been mentioned ...say her lovely smile. or expressive is normal to feel protective f our children - particularly our girls - when anyone - especially a man - notices that they do not look exactly like the little girl we brought into the world.

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    I agree. My niece is very thin and people often comment on it. Because her mother is overweight and struggles with dieting I think my niece has also developed body issues. I think a lot of the other young girls she is friends with are also very obsessed with appearance and thinness. I try to stress with her that the important thing is healthiness and happiness. And whenever anyone says she could be a model I say yes she's beautiful but she's also brilliant and can do so much more than be a model. How about a scientist!
    2329 days ago
  • LJACOB126
    As someone who was told her whole life that I was pretty enough to be a model, if I would just lose a few pounds... yes it makes me angry too! I am a mom of boys, and they struggle with self image too, but girls... sheesh! Anything we can do to boost them and make them super confident needs to happen!! Good luck, and keep up the great parenting!
    2329 days ago

    Comment edited on: 9/2/2014 3:13:51 PM
    I can totally relate now that my daughter is getting older well even years ago. It's frightening to see how the media portrays girls these days! modeling, running, lifting, etc - it's BS - like you said, they/we can accomplish anything we put our minds too. It doesn't matter what size we are, or how our bodies are built - it's what we put out energy into is makes us succeed!
    2329 days ago
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