Body Image - What my Daughter Sees
Friday, August 29, 2014
I came home from a rough day at work and my 7 year old had drawn a beautiful picture of our family for me. She drew Daddy, Matthew, Herself, the dog, and Me. I noticed something in that picture - I wasn't fat. In fact, in every picture she draws, I'm the same size as all of the other adults. In that simple moment, I realized that my kids don't see me the same way that I see myself.
A few years ago, my sister called to tell me that my niece (who was about 2 or 3 at the time) started pointing at a picture in the store and shouting - Aunt Jen! The model had a similar hairstyle and glasses like mine. I was flattered!
Not only do my kids (and nieces) not see my flaws, but they think I'm beautiful! When I recently cut my hair, Kate declared that she wanted hers cut the same way! On picture day, she insisted on wearing her "heels", and refused to take them off all day because when she walked into the room Daddy thought she sounded just like Mommy.
I guess I need to try to see myself through the eyes of my kids. I'm Mommy. When I sit down, they fight over who gets to sit in my lap. They don't care about the roles on my tummy that make my lap a little smaller. When I take them to the pool, they don't care about what I look like in my bathing suit. All they notice is that I play in the water with them and teach them how to swim. When I go to work in the morning, they don't notice if my hair isn't just right or that my outfit isn't the most stylish. They just care about getting the extra hug or kiss before I go.
So, my positive Body Image thought for today is - look at myself through the eyes of my kids. I'm their beautiful Mommy. I love them to the moon and back - and probably a little more.
Also, one other note, thank you to all for the positive comments on my blog post from the other day. I never realized how inspiring it could be to inspire others!