The Year of Living Better – Day 6
Sunday, July 20, 2014
It’s been a busy few days. I haven’t had much time to sit down and surf Sparkpeople let alone write a blog. This past week quickly turned into one of THOSE weeks. My kids were supposed to go with their father to honor their grandparents’ (their father’s mother and father passed away within a year of each other and wanted to have their ashes spread near a campground that they had taken their children and grandchildren to for decades) last wishes this weekend but the beginning of this week he decided to go off the deep end and stopped returning calls except to tell my daughter that he wasn’t going. She was so upset as was the rest of the family. My husband, son and I live about an hour away from my daughter and the rest of the family and the ceremony was taking place about another hour and half south of that. I tried to find a way to get them there as did their aunts and uncles but the rest of the family was going for a long weekend and because of other plans my kids were only able to go for the day. After trying everything I could do I ended up asking my boss for Friday off so that I could take them.
In addition, we had plans to help move my mom into her condo on Saturday, so it was going to be a FULL weekend.
My son and I left early yesterday. We picked up my daughter and drove the rest of the way to the campground. It was such a wonderful day. I love my ex’ family. I couldn’t have loved his parents and siblings (and their families) any more had they been my own so it was so nice to spend time with them and to know how much they (and my kids) appreciated me making sure they made it to honor their grandparents. It was, however, a very long day. The freeway was a mess on the way home so all in all we were driving for about 7 hours.
When we got home, I got word that there had been a problem with closing on the condo my mom was purchasing and that we were going to have to postpone the move to next weekend (hopefully, she is still waiting for word on when the closing will be) which actually is fine with me. She is feeling really stressed though and trying to keep her thinking positively is wearing on me a bit.
Oh, and, my husband accepted a new position on Friday…which is great (really!!) but still caused some excited (heated) discussion. You see, 2 ½ years ago I got an excellent opportunity and accepted a position that required me to commute (70 miles each way) daily. When my husband and I were discussing whether or not I should take the position we decided that we would relocate to the city where my new job was after my son graduated high school. We moved a year ago but my husband hadn’t found a job here yet so he was staying at my mother’s house 3 nights a week. It was supposed to just be for a short time but..it’s been a year. For a year now, we’ve only lived together on weekends. Well when my mom sold her house and had to move out July 4th weekend, my husband no longer had a place to stay so he’s been commuting since then. It’s caused a bit of hardship, extra money for gas, wear and tear on the car and well…his alarm goes off at 3:15 am! Ugh…we have both been so tired. He’s been applying, including with staffing companies. On Thursday he got a call about an interview and the job sounded great…except…it was in another town…47 miles away. *Sigh* My husband was so excited. The job sounded perfect, and the starting wage was much better than anything else he’d been seeing. I was concerned though. Yeah, it’s not as far away as his current job, but with his current job he is mostly traveling on the freeway. My worry was that we weren’t really gaining anything (as far as time). I expressed my concerns and he immediately got defensive. I was finally able to communicate to him that I was not trying to discourage him, but that I just wanted him to make an informed decision. We decided he should go to the interview and check it out. He loved the place, the supervisor and they even offered him an additional $1 per hour so he accepted. I know we’ll find a way to make it work so I’ve decided not to worry about the time (besides it sounds like his schedule will work out well for us to have maximum time together) and he is so happy! I am so very proud of him.
Anyhow, through all of this, I’ve had a bit of struggle the last couple of days but even so I have managed to maintain a presence of mind. I’ve gotten my exercise in each day. I have a plan going into next week and feel good my long term success. I still feel strong and I have NO intention of giving up or giving in!
I hope you’re all having a great weekend!