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Seven years

Thursday, July 17, 2014

Seven years is this magic amount of time...."they" say it takes 7 years for all of your cells in your body to change/regenerate and that basically you have a whole new you every 7 years... and "they" it takes 7 years for someone who lost a loved one to move on.

It makes sense if you actually think about them being tied together in some way.

Basically, this 2 theories are what I have "believe" and have noticed in my own life, so therefore, I have absolutely no problem passing them on as my own "truth" at this point. emoticon

I have even observed the seven year death acceptance truth in my own close family circle. It truly is amazing.

So in the spirit of casual conversation at the office, I spread that theory to someone a few months and she recently came back to me... and said she noticed a difference in her own life now that she was aware of it... Like she was starting to really forget that person and it made her sad.

Driving home from work the other day, I was thinking of how many years on Spark I have been here...I am well into my 6th year. My 7th year anniversary of Sparking is coming up in February 2015 and I am just starting to forget my old me... and it makes me wonder what the 7th year will bring.

"They" say (gotta love "them" right?) that the longer you maintain, the more likely you will keep it off in the long long haul. That is great! But part of maintenance is keeping that memory of who you were and how you don't want to be anymore. It's a needed memory...but it's also one that can be a crutch or mentally crippling depending on how you want to spin it.

For example: I am 5 pounds up from my usual 132 that I have been maintaining. 136 on the scale today and I am "battling" those last 5 pounds that I haven't had in a long time. Old fat me sees this as a failure and is screaming at me to just screw the calorie count... New thin me is screaming that it's time to take control. emoticon vs. emoticon

Listening to the new me is hard sometimes but the voice is louder than the old me now. The new is also saying to be kind, to accept that the last year was rough, and things are settling down, and that all things take time to adjust...and I will be back in my "usual" range sooner than later... to just listen to my instincts and trust the process of doing what has worked in the past.

The new me is also getting brave about launching the Health Coaching business. I have yet to complete my website, get my insurance and tax ID #, get a logo, yadda yadda yadda.... but my gut is telling me that timing is what it is for a reason... and some things need just that....time.

The whole 7 year thing might be in play here... to finally accept that the old me is really gone.

Part of it does make me sad.... I will not lie. It's like saying good-bye to someone you have known for a long time.... even though they weren't always nice to you, in hindsight, you loved them anyway.

Thinking back when I was younger...I sure did not love myself as much as I should have. That was part of my problem - lack of self-esteem. Elementary school was hard and lonely... and yes, the thought of how the world would be if I were not in it had crossed my mind back then. Would people miss me? Would it matter? Those thoughts went into middle school as well. Horrible that a kid had to think that, but there it is... I did. My family doesn't even know that I thought these thoughts at one point, because they were fleeting and somehow, I worked through them...probably had a good cry with my mom about being an outsider and then moved on as best as I could. Thank god for high school and the friends I found there! Still friends with them today....again, things just take time.

Thinking back...I am wondering now about the timing of each thing... was it 7 years in between those awful thought and finding my high school besties? Quite possible. Very possible now that I think of it. 15 - 7 = 8. Yup...that sounds about right. 8 or 9 years old. How awful... but that is when I started to get chunky and started to feel crappy about how I looked in clothing. Seeing pictures of that age make me sad to this day.

My seven year theory is making it's point once again, I see!

Wow.....crazy stuff.

Just reading back what I wrote is very trippy, btw... and it makes me want to not be sad now, but to celebrate what has come out of all of that.... ME! This "new me" that really was there the whole time... and that no matter what shape I am, I was truly there to be found... all it took was some love and self-kindness ... a support system both at home and here ... and seven years!

So I guess the moral of this story is just that....things take time... possibly 7 years time, so if you are going through a rough patch....just think! In a few months or years, it could all be different!

I have to quote a co-worker now. A quote that makes me smile when he says it, because it really is true "Make good choices!"

He has no idea how wise of a statement that is. emoticon
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    What an excellent blog! The seven year quote makes a lot of sense. I also love how you talk about having to let go and say goodbye to your old self. I totally identify with that!

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    1435 days ago

    Comment edited on: 7/17/2014 2:55:56 PM
  • DALID414
    I've heard this 7 year thing about the body, wonder what a dermotologist would say?

    1435 days ago
    I just love the new thin You! You have such amazing insight, and really know how to relate to people. I am so rooting for your Health Coaching Business; I know it will be successful!!!
    Love you, and thanks for all the help you have given me over the years!

    I'm in a better place, and am feeling good right now!

    1435 days ago
  • KANOE10
    That is interesting about the seven year concept. This does not relate, but it normally takes 7 years for someone who is monolingual to learn a second language and to be proficient enough to graduate out of english language support classes. Another 7 year cycle.

    Your description of the old me and the new me in terms of maintenance is right on. You still hear that old voice when dealing with up pounds, but as you say the new voice becomes louder and allow you to be compassionate, stay positive and also to take action. Gradually you listen to the new you with the healthy lifestyle.

    I tell myself that the new me is the person I was meant to from addiction of food. Love, self kindness and a support system are key tools in being this person.

    I am glad you made some great friends in high school. I also started getting chunky at 8 or 9 and felt like an outsider, even though i had friends.

    I have been on Spark for 3 years and look forward to seeing what my 7th year will bring.

    Thanks for sharing interesting thoughts.

    You might like this quote from Brooklyn Born by Dumbledore.
    “It’s not our abilities that show what we truly are, it is our choices”

    1435 days ago

    Comment edited on: 7/17/2014 8:12:52 AM
    I don't know about 7 years, just that it takes time, and time is different looking forward than looking back. Right now, in the heat of glorious summer, it seems like Christmas is way far off, yet last Christmas seems like it just happened. Everything passes and changes. The agonies of ending my first marriage seemed to last forever while it was happening, but it was 33 years ago. I remember thinking my first son would never be born (his birth was nearly 3 weeks after my "due date") but his is 44 now. I guess the question is, When I look back one year, seven years, thirty years, what do I want to remember about Now?
    1435 days ago
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