I Give UP!!!

Tuesday, July 08, 2014

I am giving up! No, not permanently, but for a day or two! emoticon

Richard had ankle fusion surgery on 6/25 and came home from the hospital on 6/27 in a cast and with instructions for no weight bearing for 6 weeks. He's been terrific. I couldn't ask for anyone better to take care of. But...I do need to take care of him.

Our DD from Virginia and her dog surprised us with an unexpected visit on 6/29 and will be here until this Thursday. Totally unplanned on our part. She wanted it to be a surprise. Doesn't she know we're old and don't do surprises well anymore? emoticon In fairness, she visited friends in Kansas City for a few days and has been sleeping at her brother's house since she got back because...another son and his wife, also from Virginia, had picked this same time to come so they could visit a new granddaughter (our great-grand) and they are staying with us in the one spare room.

Saturday night our two grandsons spent the night (no trouble to have them...just one more thing). Sunday morning we had a family gathering for brunch (10 adults, 2 grandsons and the baby). Again...not a huge deal and the kids helped put things together.

Coming and going, text messages, phone calls, refrigerator doors opening and closing, snack foods sitting around everywhere, birthday cake and ice cream...oh, yes...I forgot to mention yesterday was Richard's birthday!!!Last evening we celebrated with the cake/ice cream. When we're alone we don't celebrate except with cards. We have gone from one meal to the next trying to figure out who will be here, if anyone, and what we're having...leftovers, order in, grilling???

There is hope! Yesterday Richard saw the doctor. They took the old cast off, removed the stitches from the incisions and put on the new one. He opted for neon orange this time. He looks like a highway safety cone. emoticon But, bottom line is they were satisfied with the way the incisions looked and told him to come back in 4 weeks, but still no weight bearing. That was really good news.

Tomorrow DS and DIL will be leaving and stopping to see my Mom and Sis on the way. Thursday DD and doggie will be leaving. Grandsons and their parents will be out of town for 5 days beginning tomorrow, too. Thursday evening, life will return to "normal" for these 2 old people who raised four kids and had four teenagers at one time, but have come to enjoy being empty nesters. Isn't that crazy? I'm so grateful that we still have 3 of them and 2 with spouses with us, not to mention these darling grands and greats, but I'm sure our DS in heaven is looking down right now and scratching his head a bit and wondering what all the fuss is about. Life used to always be like this, didn't it??!!

So, for now, I'm throwing in the towel and planning to get good sleep for a couple of nights. I've just had too many things going on to concentrate on anything else. Even when they "help" it becomes more work!! LOL!!! emoticon I just need a few hours of breathing space and then I'll be good to go again!! See you soon!! Hugs and love to all!! emoticon

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    I so get it. Lovely to see everyone but wouldn't it be great if everyone had their own quarters to retreat to for awhile each day? Hope all is back to normal now. Hugs.
    1733 days ago
    I's exhausting to have company, but fun to see everyone and happy to see them go! Happy belated Birthday to Richard! emoticon
    Take care and relax....enjoy the summer! Luv ya! emoticon
    1743 days ago
    Well, I finally am able to catch up on you and yours. Still learning the ropes here. Love your blogs! emoticon
    1745 days ago
    Jeannie, I totally get you. We just don't do chaos well any more. You enjoy the rest and we'll see you on the other side!
    Hugs, Carol
    1749 days ago
    You take it easy it sounds like you have earned a good reast ! hugs,Cheri
    1749 days ago
    Very wise thing to do. Things will stop spinning and you will be back with vigor. I'll think of you even if I don't hear much from you. emoticon
    1749 days ago
    Take care of you can take care of Richard! We'll see you when you're 'back in the saddle'.
    1749 days ago
  • JILL313
    Wow, Jeannie, Honestly I felt exhausted & tired just reading about all the going ons in your busy life. I love my family dearly but honestly couldn't handle having them all around me for days at a time. I also love & enjoy my precious quiet time. . .fixing daily meals for others would throw me for a loop. Glad to hear your family will be back home soon and it'll be just you and Richard again. Like you when I was young I loved entertaining and having family & friends over but I wouldn't want to do that now as it's just too nerve wrecking having to figure out what to fix for meals but years ago I loved being around people 24/7 but now I enjoy a more quiet life. I guess old age has settled in on me. Wishing Richard a very Happy Birthday!! I bet he enjoyed every bite of his cake & ice cream. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1749 days ago
  • JAMER123
    Boy, do I hear you on that!! You really had a crew to cook and care for. I think I might have been to the point of pulling my hair out (not really!!) lol. What fun it must have been to have all together!! And I am so glad that Richard is doing well & behaving!! :-) Get some sleep and take a couple R&R days. You have earned them!
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    1749 days ago
    Whew! Don't know if I could handle all that activity any more! Isn't it funny how we get used to being just 2 after having families? Hope everyone makes it home OK after all the traveling and getting together!

    Glad that Richard's surgery went well and that he is healing so well! Oh, and tell him emoticon for me! emoticon
    1749 days ago
  • FIT4MEIN2013
    Good luck!
    1749 days ago
  • SPEEDY143
    emoticon sweet dreams Jeannie... YOU and Richard deserve a stay-cation in your own quiet home sweet home emoticon
    1749 days ago
    Enjoy your breathing space and rest and relax. Please know you will be missed while you're away. jeanne emoticon
    1749 days ago
    My vote is that you take yourself -- just you -- to a luxury hotel for a few days. On the French Riviera. There you not only can throw in the towel, but also the bikini and the champagne.
    1749 days ago
    Hang in there!!! These are the days they want to be with us, when they are young, and have young families. As hard as it is, these are the best days to look back on. Sorry it is a lot of work, but today Mothers all have to work, and everyone is looking for a little break, which they get in their Parents presence.
    You have the right prospective though, just throw in the towel, for a day, get those feet up and rest.

    1749 days ago
    Take the time for yourself. Family visits are the stuff of memories, that's true. We had a houseful over the 4th of July holiday and I cooked several meals for everyone. Came home Sunday and then cooked again Monday night. This morning I told my husband he has to bring home Chicken Caesar Salads for us both. I just can't cook again tonight. It felt so good to ask him ahead of time and at the right time. It feels good when we observe our boundaries and satisfy our basic instinct to focus on our own needs. We will be ready another time to contribute to those memories. But now is for me.
    1750 days ago
    That sounds like a rat race to me. I couldn't keep up with who was where. But I do agree it is nice to see the kids all come home, but also nice to see them all go, also. And I agree the older I get the less I like surprises too.
    1750 days ago
    I understand completely. When our DD comes to visit she considers herself on vacation and we are supposed to entertain her and DGD. While we love them both dearly it is always nice when they go home! Today we planned a trip to Niagara Falls. We'll drive from the cabin - only 12 hours and they will fly from Florida. Five days in a motel with them - what are we thinking!
    1750 days ago
    1750 days ago
    Enjoy your time!! We all need a break now and then. It is good to rest and take care of ourselves. Hugs, Moni
    1750 days ago
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