What You See

Saturday, July 05, 2014

We absolutely create our reality through the filter of perception. Notice how our inner conversation (some of which is not even verbal, but merely an emotional tone or habit of attitude) influences experience. I had this driven home to me last night. Throughout my neighborhood, folks were setting off illegal backyard fireworks, shooting them up in the sky so that the entire area was showered in pyrotechnic displays. I'd just finished working out and went out on my balcony to take a look, when I was delighted by the colors, lights and sounds of merriment. Five minutes later, my phone rang. It was a neighbor calling to express upset at the same display. She had her reasons, and certainly the activity is against the law in my city. So who was "right?" Me -- the fireworks are beautiful? Or she -- the fireworks are a serious problem? As I spoke to her, I noticed my mental confusion and a little emotional shame. Was I bad/wrong for loving the fireworks?

As I'm working my way back to some physical measurements I feel comfortable inhabiting (not so much weight as body fat percentage and waist/hip circumferences), I'm going to remember that moment of confusion -- what's true about the fireworks is true about this weight management journey. If I look in the mirror or at the measuring tape and see a setback or a problem, I'm going to feel like a failure. My thought and emotions go to an all-or-nothing mentality that fosters all kinds of bad behaviors, leading to the spiral of helpless/hopeless quitting. And that really starts before I look at the measuring tape or the little window on the scale. It starts with my moment-to-moment attitude about why I am doing this in the first place.

What I bring to my weight-management journey will color how I feel along the way, and that will be true no matter what the scale or measuring tape reveal. The concrete results are nothing but a metric for comparison. My goal is to bring joy, acceptance and enthusiasm right now. That's the truest measure of health, however ineffable.

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    I'm a little late to be adding a comment, as you wrote this a couple of weeks ago, but I just found it today and really like it. You are so right--attitude is everything! I realized lately how judgmental I am. I don't say anything out loud, but if strangers get on my nerves (selfish behavior on the road or in the supermarket, for example), in my mind I judge them harshly. I've realized what a waste of life and energy this is. I'm trying to see the world more the way you saw the fireworks. Very good story!
    2529 days ago
    i couldnĀ“t agree more love it is all about our perceptive of life that makes us and our life what it is not so much what life throws at you but more what you do with what life has thrown at you
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    Thank you for sharing
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  • _BABE_
    Life is what we perceive it to be.....good one! emoticon
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  • LINDAK25
    Bringing that forward we should realize that a by restarting exercise programs and weight management, that it's a positive step. Getting back into a healthy lifestyle. So why is it so hard to change that all-or-nothing mentality and that tail spin spiral? Shouldn't doing something positive make us feel good about ourselves? Now you've got me thinking about this. I think I need to change my attitude!
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    emoticon emoticon emoticon Thanks for sharing. emoticon
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    Excellent post! We each have our lens through which we see ourselves, each other, our experiences, and the world. We're not stuck with it, though. When we become *aware that the lens is there* and then learn how it affects what we see, we can be our own optometrists and write a new prescription. It sounds like you've written yourself a good one!

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    Comment edited on: 7/5/2014 4:23:39 PM
    You nailed it! The success of this voyage depends on our being able to accept ourselves, love ourselves, treat ourselves kindly every step of the way!

    You are seeing that for sure and kudos! I think the older I get the more I realize I am the best ME there is. I might not be the same as anyone else but that's all right. THEY would make a good me and I won't make a good THEM either!

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