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An Open Letter to Restaurants

Monday, June 30, 2014

I am not Size 10. I am, at this moment, a Size 2X (18/20).

What does that have to do with you and your restaurant, you ask? Everything.

You see, I like to go out sometimes with family and friends and have a meal. I DON'T like having to ask for a table because your booths are so poorly placed and spaced that I can't fit in them.

What? You say it's MY problem because I'm too fat. Golly? I packed 264 pounds on a 5' 3" frame? I had no idea... emoticon What was I thinking?? I'll just go on a diet right now!


Make some damn room! When my 5' 10", 176 pound husband has trouble sliding in... what's your excuse then?

Is it really too much to ask that the booths accommodate everyone that wants to eat at your establishment? If you don't want plus-sized customers, just post it on the door. I can find another place to eat.

Perhaps, you enjoy our embarrassment? It's gives you a thrill to look concerned and sympathetic and ask, "Would you prefer a table"? It leads to the hostess claiming that she "has a cousin who's obese" and she can't fit, either. Yeah... I've heard that story a thousand times.

Oh well, it does lead to what we "fatties" call a Non-Scale Victory: I fit into a booth today! Yea me! emoticon

Gosh, do I sound bitter and frustrated??? emoticon

What about those people who are larger than me? Do you know, do you care, how humiliating it is for them? None of us woke up one morning and decided to become obese.


It happened and we pay for it daily.

Your scrunched up booths do nothing but enforce the stereotype that only those of certain sizes are taken into consideration when designing eating establishments.

To top is off... booths are generally made with padded, comfortable seats. Tables are not. Booths encourage closeness, intimacy, and lingering over a meal.

Tables are designed to get the customer in and out quickly. There is distance so conversation is at a minimum.

Ask me how I feel about that.

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    You mean you didnt wake up one morning and sprinkle some pixie dust on yourself that caused you have such uncomfortable experiences. I so understand what you are saying the funny thing is that according to the statics there are more over weight or * sigh* obese people than there are the normal ones ( for lack of better wording ) Thank you for the letter I feel your frustration emoticon
    1420 days ago
    Many years ago, on a vacation in the mountains of North Carolina, my sister-in-law and I (we're both quite overweight) went out on the lake in one of those little plastic rental boats that're propelled by peddling, just like on a bicycle. My brother and nephew were peddling in the front, my sister-in-law and I in the back. It wasn't long before the back of the boat started to sink below the water line! And guess what--the young male staff attendants on the dock started laughing at our predicament! How embarrassing. We paddled furiously back to the dock, where by that time a small crowd was being entertained at our expense. Strangely--I guess because my sister-in-law was there to share the humiliation--I wasn't too upset, but my brother, appalled at the rude behavior of the staff, absolutely refused to give the crew a tip. Good for you for maintaining your dignity! Other people's rudeness is not about you; it's about them.
    1421 days ago

    Comment edited on: 7/1/2014 8:07:59 AM
  • BEFIT018
    emoticon Amen to THAT! emoticon
    1421 days ago
  • SWALSH329
    This problem is the reason that I refuse to go back to Universal Studios- I'd rather spend the ridiculous amounts of money theme parks demand at a place that isn't going to make me leave in tears. Their rides have no accommodations for bigger people. After an entire day several years ago of hearing nothing but no, and not even much sympathy, far more judgment, I complained to the guest services department, and was again met with a noncommittal shrug and a half hearted apology. One of the simulator rides, where you're sitting in a room full of people, had a very tight lap bar, and it was actually STOPPED and I was escorted off of the ride in front of everyone because I was too big and so I was causing the ride not to work correctly. I was mortified. What a horrible experience. Your blog reminded me that while that was on a grand scale and was a huge waste of money, these things happen every day in restaurants, or theaters. Obesity is a pretty common problem in America, you'd think that businesses would start accommodating a bit better.
    1421 days ago
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