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When my arms continue to wave good-bye

Sunday, June 29, 2014

It's been weird lately... I turned 41 and I just started noticing my loose skin more. When I wave and under arm skin keeps waving! LOL emoticon

Let me back-track a bit: For the next 10 (now 9) days...I am by myself. No family. No hubby. No kids. No set plans except for work. They have gone to have a summer adventure road trip without me because of my new job...and while I was a bit bummed on Wed of last week, and the kids and I shed some tears here and there over missing one another.... I am back to thinking that this was a very good thing to do. It's an adventure...and life should be about doing new things, about discovering, documenting, and then telling the stories once again. I gave them that mission to come back to me with a journal filled up! I wish I learned this at a younger age...maybe that is why I encouraged them to go!

So it leaves me to my own adventure.

And I began it yesterday with a 4 mile walk/jog along the Jones Beach Boardwalk (you can Google it - it's kinda neat).

On a whim, I threw my bathing suit and cover up, beach chair and towel, sunscreen and water, into a bag "just in case" I FELT like staying longer.

The walk was great....just what I needed. I have no idea until last night when I looked it up how long the distance was! I did a walk of 2 miles in under 23 minutes...not too shabby! LOL

As I was texting a friend at the end of it...I decided to stay and chill at the beach. I slathered the sunscreen on and was there for another 2 hours! Mentally I was just there - clearing my head...listening to the waves.... it was the best thing the doctor could have ordered!

As I was sitting there, I noticed my legs. The bottom part...still looks great - I will admit my vanity there...the upper part, not so much. That was where I lost the weight. Thank god for skirted swimsuit bottoms!!!

The stomach, as many of you know, is still and will always be: pizza dough.

I have to accept this all "as is" unless I go for surgery...which is not going to happen.

I had dinner with my girlfriend and her family last night - her mom was funny when I said this observation and she was like "and honey, it doesn't get any better as you get older!" emoticon LOL I know that part....I just have to accept it!

I guess I am torn of accepting and trying my hardest to not obsess with what I cannot do, but what I CAN do - in order to make it "not so bad as it could be".

This week is definitely a re-centering, re-focusing sort of week. I have school work needing attention...and in that sense, I have ME that needs some attention as well!

So today will start with another walk, but around town instead. It's super quiet here on a Sunday, so I will take advantage of this peace and the morning coolness before the day starts in full swing once again - today is mow the lawn day for me!
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    I always love reading your blogs, and there's always something that stands out to me. Today it is...

    "I guess I am torn of accepting and trying my hardest to not obsess with what I cannot do, but what I CAN do - in order to make it "not so bad as it could be".

    Whether you were aware or not, this is a very good and timely piece of advice.....and one I am definitely needing to hear. In fact, I am going to cut it out and save it on my refrigerator, so I will be reminded of it. It's a very powerful, and empowering statement.

    I am 55 now, and I am in better shape than I was when I was 41. I haven't lost as much weight as you, but I have still maintained a 30 pound loss, but am still struggling with loosing more.

    Your boys are growing up, and this adventure with Dad, just the guys will be great for them, and you get to have some very unfamiliar "Me" time. I just love what you did with it! Walking is so good for the mind, body, and soul!!!! There is something about exercise that is really great therapy, and what a great place you picked to enjoy yours. Plus it sounded like you really enjoyed it, and then relaxed and enjoyed even more. Good for You Girlie!!!!!

    Thank you for sharing. We all need a little reminder from time to time. I'm certainly needing a little "Mental adjustment" right now, so this will be very helpful to me. Plus it will remind me of how well you have done, and help me to stay or should I say, to return to focus.

    Have a wonderful day, and Love you Girl!


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  • KANOE10
    I still have loose skin in lots of places. At least I have muscle definition which helps. I have decided to move to swim shorts and tops..enough of my one piece suit .

    Your walk and time on the week sounds perfect. I think you will enjoy the time alone and find time to re-center and to re-focus without the demands of your family schedule.

    I enjoyed my trip alone to SF..and had lots of alone time to discover new walks and places to visit.

    1455 days ago
    The walk, the quiet relaxing time at the beach brought back memories of my life in Miami Beach. I was on the beach with my dog every morning. Walked the beach or boardwalk daily. loved those days. i was your age back then and in good shape. Never hesitated to wear a Brazilian bikini. Many times going topless at the topless beaches in Europe. Those were the days. Now 30 years and 190 lbs lost, there is much to jiggle and cover up. It bothered me at first. But I too learned to live with it. I did find some weightlifting helped define the arms better, and tighten up the tummy area. But only surgery will remove the loose skin. And that's not going to happen.
    Learn to wave like a Beauty Queen, as time passes you'll look at others and be glad you have the loose skin, not all plumped up with fat.
    Continue to enjoy your beach outing and enjoy your days in the sun.
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    1455 days ago
    That walk and the rest time at the beach sounds wonderful.
    I hope you will enjoy your quiet days alone at home.
    I always do!
    1456 days ago
    I'm enjoying hearing about your adventure with family away. Clearly you are making good use of your alone time!
    1456 days ago
    I had surgery for my batwings. It was simple, unlike thigh or tummy surgery.
    1456 days ago
    I've always called the wiggly arms "bingo arms" emoticon
    1456 days ago
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