What, exactly, is "me" time???
Monday, June 16, 2014
I have been pondering this for the last several days, after my committment to myself to give some to me every day. And honestly, I cannot decide. Being a person who can make an argument for or against practically anything (sometimes it is exhausting being me!), I am finding it hard to settle on a definition of the word that makes "me" time special, yet attainable, especially if I am committing to finding some on a regular, daily basis.
For example, when I exercise, is that "me" time? It is certainly something that I have battled with lately in terms of finding the time consistently to do it, so if I do find the time, it is something I have done for me, yet, it doesn't seem "sexy" enough to call it "me" time, it should be part of my daily routine. On the other hand, is there really anything better I can EVER do for me besides getting this ole body up and moving?? See the problem?
Here's another example: on Saturday, weeks after receiving a beautiful new pocketbook as a Mother's Day present from my awesome niece, I finally sat myself down and cleaned out my old pocketbook and transferred all my stuff into the new one, is that "me" time? Certainly anything as mundane as changing pocketbooks can't be held up as a special enough to call it "me" time. Yet...for weeks I'd look at that new pocketbook longingly, feeling frustrated that I couldn't find the time to make the switch, and it was such an accomplished feeling when I sat myself down and got it done, surely that feeling caused me to think of it as "me" time..hmmm..
And yesterday, was joining my son's baseball team with the other parents and playing some after season baseball "me" time? It was done with my husband and son, and loads of other people, and somehow in my brain I view "me" time as solitary time. But OH what a blast we had! And everyone, most certainly including me, was smiling and happy, so that MUST have been "me" time!
Oh the confusion!! So I have decided that perhaps I don't need to define "me" time beyond this: if it makes me happy, makes me smile, makes me feel like I've accomplished something, makes me feel less frustrated because I got to do something that I had wanted to but was having trouble finding the time to, then I will call it "me" time. It will be whatever adds to my sense of calm, and peace, and joy. The question is, will I call it "me" time when I take a toothbrush to clean the grout in my bathroom shower stall? Not unless I turn into my mom or my sister, but THAT is an issue for another day.....haha!
How do you measure your "me" time? Why? Would love to know!