I cannot even begin to put into print what a terrible time I had, so I wont even try. But its as much to say that for the past month I've had everything in the book thrown my way and i'm genuinely surprised that I didnt crack and crumble. What I did end up with was serious fatigue and if I think too long and hard, my head still reels. Sadly, bad things happen to people and most often when we least expect it, which leaves us unable to prepare for it.
But, the good side of what happened was that I had to take care of Axel for 20 days straight...day and night. What I learned about my dear grandson is that his whole little life was fear based. He was afraid of almost everything, from playing in a room alone, to eating textured foods...you name it, he was afraid of it. I spent loads of time on google once I got him to sleep and researched all the various issues I found myself up against and got loads of suggestions on how to fix it. This meant many hours of playing peek-a-boo. This is stuff most of us did naturally with our kids, but this little childs mother did not play any games...of any kind. He was raised with TV. He was also on nappies even during the day. So, that had to be attended too. He went to sleep any old time he finally chose to, and I had to teach him to go to sleep much much earlier and also to go to sleep with story time, as apposed to noisy kiddie cartoon movies...too many things to mention. I'm happy to say that he has worked as hard as I have, and is a much more balanced little chap. He can now spend ages on his own in a room all by himself. He can enter a room without a light on, does not wear nappies any longer and the list of improvements goes on and on and on. Hence, I am worn out!!!!!
Anyway, that merely explains my absence in general on sparks and everywhere else.
Daniel is back and loving the new Axel and loving the early bedtime routine. Its as simple as
1-2-3. Seriously, just bath, pjs on, bedtime story, kisses and cuddles and THATS IT!
No discussion, no begging/praying for the tot to dose off.
On Saturday evening, I was invited to go along with Daniel and Izelle (the new young lady in my sons life) to a "long arm" dance. Its the Afrikaans version of ball room, I guess you could say, just a lot more jittery and floppy...not as elegant. Here is a video clip of what its all about...
What I can say, is that it is TREMENDOUS FUN. The evening was a blast. People are extremely relaxed, laugh easily and old and young go spinning around the room doing what is called the SOKKIE (which means socks...because originally...people used to dance in their socks, but that doesn't happen anymore)
I even had a spin around the room first with Daniel while my hubby was plucking up the courage to attempt it. The paint on our faces will be explained.
Hubby is not a dancer and easily embarrassed, but even he couldn't resist the fun atmosphere and gave it his best shot. I was actually so proud of him, because he really is generally a wallflower at dances, it must have taken some pluck for him to actually dance and I think he enjoyed it too.
When we arrived, there were tables with finger foods on each, and candles were being lit by Daniel who was helping Izelle with things.
Her and her parents put this dance together as a fund raiser for some other dancing they do called Volkspele which is Afrikaans traditional dancing and looks like this.
On a separate table, were 3 pots of ultra violet paint for the kids to play with....and play with it they did. Axel made a beeline for the paint and then headed straight out to granny and grandpa.
This is Axel and I standing at the light to show off our art work.
This is Justin and I glowing in the dark....LOL
They had this green strobe light (I think its called) and the little ones of which there were 5 under the age of 5 were allowed to run all around the room trying to stomp on the green dots. Not a single dancer trod on the kids...I was most impressed with their avoidance skills.
And the new...getting to know each other family.
It was an evening filled with laughter, dancing, eating and feel good. Which was much needed by me after the drama I had just lived through in the previous month.
Tomorrow, hubby intends to take me to lunch...away from the young ones. I love the young ones, but Im looking forward to a little "quiet" time. Right now my days and nights seem to filled with talking, talking to someone. Thats great, except I really need to stop listening LOL, I just need some Q.U.I.E.T from the girlfriends and Axel. Its great getting to know the ladies and its really great that they chat so easily, but I get tired of listening and smiling....oh well, I'll get used to my new role in life or die trying.
Hope this finds you all well, and still managing your healthy life style. If not, its a good time to make a new start. I have to get myself in gear also. For a month, I lived on anything that could energize me from sweets, to bread and peanut butter. Obviously I have put on some weight again, but to my delight, its only a few kilograms whereas in the previous years I would have put every last kg back on plus some. Things are definitely improving in my weight loss skills.