Why Me? Monday Musings

Monday, May 26, 2014

Did you ever wonder "why me?" I've fallen into that trap so many times it isn't funny. Why am I the fat one who can't say no to that extra serving of the yummy dessert? Why do I have to be the one who has to shop in the plus size section of the stores? What did I ever do to deserve all these obesity related issues?

Uh oh...I think I fell into my own trap!!! What did I do to deserve plus sized clothing and obesity issues, among other things? Hmmm...did I treat myself to way too many of those desserts because I was "good" all week and I deserved a treat? Does it have anything to do with all those years when I sat on my fanny way too many times and thought I'd get some really good exercise later? Or, might it have been all those evenings when I ate myself into oblivion because I'd had a rough day at work or a serious family problem to solve? And, in the process of doing all these things, might it be why I developed an addiction to certain kinds of foods?

So really, in retrospect, I have to ask why not me? What is so special about me that I would or should be any different from others who have similar issues? Why should it be any easier for me to conquer these challenges? Isn't there a saying somewhere that what doesn't kill you will make you stronger? I'm thinking that I, along with all my very Special Spark Sisters and Friends, must be about the strongest people on the planet. We are forging ahead...not always quickly, not always efficiently, but we're doing it, aren't we? One way or another, we're doing it!! And that, my friends, is all I can ask for today!!

Wishing the very best of "me" days for each of you!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
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    1664 days ago
    Well done! Wow! Your insight and thoughts are leading the way! its like you are reading my mind...We can do this!
    1665 days ago
    Thanks, Jeannie. I really needed this right now. I am going to soar with the storks? emoticon
    1666 days ago
  • JILL313
    Unfortunately your so right as I have asked myself why am I obese when both my Sisters are slim and healthy. But, I know the answer to that question. I eat emotionally when I'm sad, depressed, etc. There lives are very different from mine and honestly don't have all the stress in their lives like I always seem to especially dealing with Brent. You're a really good writer and everything in your blogs are always so crystal clear and a light bulb of empathy for you, myself & oh so many people. Like Ramona said, Why not me? There is no escaping this life without stress including my ongoing issue with emotional eating and craving all the unhealthy high carbs. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

    PS - At least neither one of us has turned to alcohol--that would be far worse. I think some people who have lots of inner issues do. . .
    1666 days ago
  • JAMER123
    I am looking back at the "why me" thoughts as I read many blogs such as yours. It is a provoking question and I am beginning to understand my "whys" so I think. I may be able to blog about it some day as I see a different picture of my past.

    Thank you for a great blog!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1666 days ago
    Every time I find myself thinking "Why me", I have to immediately follow that with "Why not me". Do I not have the strength and perseverance, to do this? Do I not possess the intelligence to learn about healthy choices, and how much exercise is "enough"? And can I not then share my struggles and triumphs with others, that perhaps they can gain a little strength or insight, from what I share?

    emoticon Oh, yes indeed, we CAN.
    1666 days ago
    Yes we are doing it and yes we are strong!
    1666 days ago
    Very well said! It's a daily struggle made easier by some pretty special people!
    1666 days ago
    I'm with you...Why NOT me!

    BUT, we can kick these bad habits, and soar with the eagles... emoticon OK, that's not an eagle...but storks can soar, too!
    1666 days ago
    Oh, Jeannie, that was so beautifully expressed. You know, when I started out on my Spark adventure I never talked about or celebrated my weight loss. Sure, my ticker showed what was happening, but I didn't shout it from the rooftops. Why? Because I figured it was so disgusting that I actually had that much weight to lose. And if anyone had asked me why I had so much to lose, I wouldn't have an answer. All the reasons you have given have rattled around in my head too. But eventually, thanks solely to all the encouragement and belonging I have felt here, I have come to appreciate the fact that I'm out there doing it, along with all my very strong Sparkfriends, and I have let go of what got me here and now rejoice in what's keeping me here, one success after another. We ARE the strongest people on the planet!!!
    Thank you for this wonderful blog!
    emoticon Carol
    1666 days ago
    Very good blog. I have gone through this struggle myself and come to the same conclusion!
    1666 days ago
    Good blog Jeannie - there is a song (of course!) that goes "Why not me, it isn't fair, I ain't got enough, I want my share...' For so many of us food = love, add to that food = comfort or stress reliever and we got a double whammy.

    Yes, we must forge ahead as the options or being heavier or morbidly obese aren't the best for wanting a quality life. That is what I try to remember - think about how I am now vs. several years ago.

    Still want to lose a little faster, though, especially when I'm extremely good.... Well, I'll keep dancing and changing up along with you. We can do this!
    1666 days ago
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