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Monday, April 28, 2014

So , mothers are dangerous!!!! I spent the last week with the pressure alarms on, not letting my mom try to move around alone, etc after her fall the previous Friday while I was on vacation. I tried to extra sweet this Friday , as when I woke her up she said, "mom, mom, where am I?". She 'd been moving around better, we spent the day talking, I reviewed family with her, showed her all our vacation pics and vids again, she was walking well and we easily got in the car and went thru a drivethru for her fave cheeseburger/ milkshake. Everything seemed fine and on the mend, even though she kept ignoring my pleas to not move around on her own. I even told her if she got hurt again-just as motivation- that the authorities may not LET her live outside a 24 hr care place, so please cooperate!

Still no diet or exercise for me, I had every intention of getting a good workout in Saturday. That morning hubby went out to mow, I had my mom up and settled with coffee , she was trying to get up to fold laundry she saw I had waiting, and I kept sitting her down again, (with the laundry, I am no dummy, haha). So I told her I HAD to get in the bathroom and I was going to be a few minutes so please don't get up until I came back. Needless to say she didn't listen.

When I got out of my own bathroom, I could not find her until I liked in her bathroom and found her on the floor.... In a pool of blood.

Called ambulance , got her into an out of town (more advanced ) ER , where they have found NOTHING, no breaks , fractures, new stroke , etc, thus far. Allll that blood was from a forehead wound that needed eight stitches

Today I have to find a rehab/ nursing home AT LEAST for the short term. My sis an hour south of me said to chose a place by her, but frankly she can be a hinderance, as she interferes with therapy, etc. my Hawaii sis, who has invited hubs and I to move in with her, said we could check into a place there for her, but I'd have to plan to come also to help keep her calm about. Being in such unfamiliar surroundings , slightly different language, etc. I would jump on this, but can't leave my husband holding the bag on taxiing care of things here. (He says we need at least a year or more to tie loose ends here, sell house, etc. not good for a marriage to be gone THAT long) soooooooo. Trying to decide if home around the corner from me is again best option. Heard a rumor the nursing director/ satan from our last stay there was fired, so need to check that out. 2 hr drives up and back to hospital sat/ sun/ today....and admittedly still pigging out on Mac nuts cheese and bread at night!!!!!

I know everything happens for a reason, and this was our heads up to get mom into 24 hr care place, but I dread it!!!! Please pray she sees the sense and by some miracle, settles in and likes it!
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    Wow, what a scary moment. What a blessing it was only stitches needed, but still super scary. Sending hugs.
    1812 days ago
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    I will pray for you.
    1813 days ago
    Prayers and blessing for both of you!
    1815 days ago
    Ugh, we went through that with my mom too - although she had Alzheimer's and got to the point where she didn't recognize the house as "home." So when we moved her into a care facility, she was kind of relieved. (We tried in-house care workers, but my mom tried running away from them, so that wasn't an option.)

    So - while it is difficult to make the decision - it's the best decision for her care. Find a good facility where you and the rest of the family can visit. Talk to your mother about what kind of care she wants, advance directives, etc. Talk to an attorney about getting an advance directive in writing (so your other sister can't change your mother's requests, such as a do not resuscitate order, or no feeding tube, or whatever).

    It's depressing, but it's better to know these things before things get dire. My dad passed away last December, and until the last week or two was very lucid - so he made sure all of us knew exactly how he wanted things handled.

    Big hugs to you, and set up your own support system - you'll need shoulders to cry on and arms to hug you a little more right now.
    1815 days ago
    Yup...that is how my moms leg looked...twice...It is by some miracle that they don't bleed out....My brother found my mom up on a step ladder trying to clean the top of the kitchen cabinets. He said, "And my doctor wonders why my blood pressure is up?" My mom still is sharp, but she still is determined to do things that are dangerous. Like...why is she in the basement? Why is she climbing ladders...why is she moving around heavy mirrors and art work? I go over there...where is she? The attic..nope...washing and hanging new curtains...on a ladder. She doesn't want to be old. I understand, but why must " not getting old" involve ladders and steep stairs?? I feel for you. I hope that the place around the corner works out and that the nurse from Hell is really gone. Chances are, she is...In the meantime, waiting a year to move gives you lots of time to get rid of things and sell your house...Hawaii can wait a year... emoticon
    1816 days ago
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