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The garden

Tuesday, April 22, 2014

With my back being injured, there is no way that I could safely clean up the yard for the summer. And boy did it need it: I did nothing in the line of fall cleanup, what with all the health crises going on. So we got a lawn service in to do a thorough cleanup, trimming, and general un-disastering of the yard, front, back, and side. It looks better than it has in a couple years.

And my first reaction to it all was to be really sad.

Poor hubby was distressed. "I don't know how to help you be happy!" he said. I didn't know, either. It made no sense, because I'd gotten what I wanted, and what I didn't have the physical capability of accomplishing myself.

But I realized that the process of cleaning up, as much as I thought I disliked it, had meaning for me. And not being able to do it, even when I can objectively see that I would not have done nearly as thorough a job, left me feeling a little hollow.

Fortunately, they did leave me one section of work that needs to be done: the ivy along the driveway and the narrow bed in which I plant my herbs that runs along the driveway as well. It's not a very big job, but since I can only work at it for half an hour a day, it will take me plenty of time.

And it will get me outside. I love my house, but after this winter it feels a little like I'm stuck inside a Coleman cooler. We have small windows and not much natural light--it's good for the heating bills, but psychologically wearing. I really need that sunshine. I've been outside walking at least an hour a day.

What I really need is a place to sit outside. We used to have a swing in the backyard, but it's gone now. We have no porch and no deck. And hubby isn't much for the outdoors, so just setting up a couple lawn chairs in the hopes that he will sit with me is pretty futile. He makes the valid point that he's either too hot or too cold, and at either extreme there are bugs; the chairs are less comfortable than the ones in the house and what exactly are we doing this for? But I dream of a summer kitchen kind of space. Oh well, maybe when I win the lottery!
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    Being outside is healing. Get outside to dig in the dirt. If you have the energy, invite a neighbor over to join you for a cup of coffee and a visit outside. It all helps. The suns helps everything and everyone thrive.
    1756 days ago
    I to like to sit out side and in my apartment's yard outside the care taker has sat two chairs that he and my hubby sit in now and than.
    1758 days ago
    Being out in my yarden is very much my therapy, exercise and JOY!!

    My DH isn't big on just being out in the yard either. I can't figure out what kind of space would make him want to come and be outside.

    I would love an outdoor "living room" because there is nothing like a good glass of wine under the sky with some music in the background. Maybe a good book, or a nap....Ahhhh Bliss!!
    1758 days ago
    I, too, like to sit outside. Even though there's more noise, it seems more peaceful. :-)
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    1760 days ago
    I know exactly how you feel about being outside and working in the garden. It makes me happy every time, no matter how hard the work is.

    I'm glad you have some tasks you can do yourself. Maybe some pots of flowers that could you put together would be fun too. They could surround a nice comfy lounge chair for you to relax and read in...let DH stay inside!
    1760 days ago
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    I understand. While I want something to be done, I also want the sense of accomplishment of having done it myself. Our garden really suffered last year because of Jim's 150-mile round trip commute and my commuting by bike. We've pledged to put more effort into it this year, but I'm also lowering my expectations.

    There's something calming about sitting outside. Our front porch is mostly shaded during the summer. The patio in back is on the north side of the house, but it still gets really hot. We're building a pergola this spring. We have grapes on the west side of the patio, and it's our plan to trail them up the west side of the pergola to provide shade. I'm planning to paint a "carpet" on the concrete. My hope is to make an outdoor room that will be cooler than the bare concrete patio is now.

    I hope you win the lottery.
    1760 days ago
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