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Modern Dating Sucks

Sunday, April 13, 2014

Tonight I had my first meet and greet (blind date) in a couple of years. He seemed like a nice guy when we were talking. He was pleasant when we met. He asked me to text him later. Then he told me that we wanted different things because I wouldn't go to bed with someone I just met. His goal is to have fun and not have any commitment.

Am I such an odd duck to believe that sex should come later? That you should matter to someone before you go to bed with them? I feel like he picked me because he figured that I would be easy to get into bed because I am not one of the skinny beautiful people.
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    He wasn't looking to date, just to hook up. there ae people that share your concerns and values. just dont settle for the losers and scum bags.
    1469 days ago
    You've got my sympathy! Dating these days is no fun!
    When I retired in 2007, I had been widowed for 5 years and I felt I was ready to jump back into the water.
    Two of my friends had found their husbands that way.
    I signed up for three dating sites, and made it an 8-hour-per-day job.
    I had email conversations with nearly 500 men, plus a few women.
    I found way too many super-religious.
    I found far too many "play boys."
    I found lots of athletic self-worshipers.
    I met about 40 "prospects" and had multiple dates with 8.
    I found one in Texas who rejected me at first sight because he preferred "Big Hair and Small Butt"... the opposite of me...small hair and big butt.
    I found a delightful man in Gallup, who smoked heavily (I have bad lungs.)
    There was an equally dear one in Clovis....but I'm too set in my ways to go back to the mobile home on the prairie!
    Then I found Super Special Man in Edgewood, who doesn't look like someone I would date, but is a solid gold human being. We have been going out, (and eventually staying in) for six years.
    All this tale is to encourage you to keep trying...anything worth having is a lot of work.
    Somehow, the job of losing weight and getting fit seems easier when you compare it to dealing intimately with another person.
    Best wishes! emoticon emoticon
    1470 days ago
  • 68ANNE
    that sucks and I don't agree with him at all
    1470 days ago
    I am a fan of the Steve Harvey show and his first rule of dating is the 90 day rule.... Don't give up the cookie for at least 90 days! I think he is right on with that advice. 3 months might be long enoug hto see if the man is for real.... Or, is he out for just a good time. any man who likes you and respects you will honor your wishes to wait. I don't think it has anything to do with what you look like or anything like that.... Many men are out to get as many women as they can into bed.... Large women, small women, brown women, white women, you name it and if they can talk a gal into bed, then they won! Ha. Hold strong and don't rush anything! Don't let this one dud be your signal for all men either. There is someone worthy of you out there!
    1471 days ago
    Ugh. I've online dated on and off for a couple of years, and it's hit or miss. Recently met a great guy, and we're going strong, but yeah, there's a lot of guys out there that just want to have a good time. I pretty much ended up stating on my profile that if I wanted to just take a guy home for the night, I didn't need to be online as I could go to the nearest bar and find one. Even one guy that I told that I wouldn't be sleeping with him on the first date still tried to get me into bed.

    Odd? Nope. I don't even kiss on the first date, and I'm not prudish or have religious reasons for abstaining. I watched two people die from AIDS as a child, so I'm cautious and respect my body - so I need to have a connection built with someone before going further. Let this one back into the pond and keep looking.
    1471 days ago
    Good for you! What a self-centered ______. Hang in there and keep looking, there have to be some nice guys left. It seems like if you look in nice places you should find nice people? emoticon
    1471 days ago
    Hold on to your morals. You deserve the right thing for you and only you can decide that. I am in the same boat and have the same experiences, but I have actually met a few NICE guys who actually want commitment but they were not my type. They DO exist. They are just hard to find!

    Be patient and kind to yourself. You deserve that!
    1471 days ago
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