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Judgement Day

Monday, April 07, 2014

I am not one to compare myself to others because I do not like how it makes me feel.. You do not know what these people go through and it causes a lot of self doubt in myself. That being said, Over the weekend, I went to the pool with my fiancé and a few friends. I have a two piece tankini so it covers my stomach... My problem area. I live in South Florida so it is ALWAYS hot...I was having a good time and not letting my issues get to me when a few girls come over in a group who have tube top looking bikini tops on and thong bottoms in a community apartment pool.

I couldn't help but think first off, how horrible it is to dress like that in a community area with young children all around but second off, it really makes you consider body image and how you look vs. how you feel.

When you see skinnier people then yourself, do you think about how they got there? Do you think about how you would look if you looked like that? Do you think about how hard they work to look like that? I know, I do not!
I try really hard to look at what I ate that day or that week, I look at how hard I worked out that week and if I deserve that body or if I am wishing for that body... It was a huge reality check for me. I ate like crap last week and didn't work out a lot. Did I deserve that body that I was good looking or do I need to kick my own ass into logging food and working out?
I look at the hard work I need to put in to get that body and really look at myself and use it as motivation. Do not deprive yourself of what you want but be smart and do not judge...Motivate!
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    I generally try not to although sometimes the catty voice has it's go. For the most part I'm very aware that I will never be a thin lithe figure - my frame isn't shaped that way. I can feel where my ribs are, where my hip bones are, where my shoulder bones are and they are not that narrow. I might at times compare myself to my mom because she has a similar (but still smaller) frame and is very thin. But she's also not very strong. I like to try to focus on feeling my body and feeling it's strength, knowing where it is bone and where it is soft flesh and where it is muscular and then looking for growth in those muscles.
    1800 days ago
    I do tend to compare myself to others at times. Sometimes it makes me realize just how distorted my self image is, other times it just makes me feel depressed and like I'm never going to reach my goals, or never going to be that fit/skinny/toned/whatever. You're exactly right, I should be using that as motivation to work harder, not a reason to be depressed and give up! Maybe those girls have an amazing metabolism and perfect genes, but more likely they've worked their butts off to get that body, and that's exactly what I need to do if I want to get there too! Thank you for sharing that perspective!

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