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Thoughts on setting the table just for me.

Sunday, March 30, 2014

Why don't I make the table look nice before I sit down to eat?

I am 66 and pretty much never eat at the table. I eat in a recliner in front of the TV or at the computer or walking around or just about anywhere except at the table. Ir-- I eat in the car-- a really, really bad habit. Wat , no time to actually stop and sit and savor my food.

It seems like a bother to make the table look nice . Maybe I don't seem worth the trouble. Hm.. now I am getting somewhere!

Let lone sit with my husband to have a real meal! I set out his food for him and he gets his wheelchair to the table. And he eats alone while I am elsewhere in the house. Hmmm...
Now he knocks the table with his big, clunky motorized wheelchair. He sits sideways to the table usually so he can easily get stuff with his left hand. Often he knocks other furniture around getting himself set. I moved the couch so now he usually hits that first. To get himself set up, he has to ride into the kitchen, turn around and go back toward the living room. Then his 'good' side is next to the table. Often he grabs something and rides in front of the TV.

I feel I am the caregiver and just set his stuff up for him. I rarly ea next to him. We eat totally different food. I fix my own and take it to the 'office' to eat while I am sparking. Or I might take it into the bedroom and read while I eat lunch or even dinner and often a snack.

Here are some table settings to remind myself how I might actually make the table look nice.

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  • OOLALA53
    When I first started my habit changes a few years ago, I purposely put my meals on the table even though I was still watching TV. I live alone, and it has never made any sense to me to insist on my eating with no distractions at all as a routine. It's not natural. No slim cultures in the world routinely eat without at least the distraction of conversation with their meal mates.

    But eating at the cleared off table made me feel so grown up and normal!

    It must be hard not to feel you want to eat with your husband. Do you miss being able to share nice meals with him?

    I don't think it has to do with your not feeling you deserve better. For one thing, thoughts like that tend to shame us and that is usually not helpful. It's probably that it just seems like there won't be enough payoff because you've forgotten that it might be nice! Sounds like it would be worth insisting on a few meals a week just to see.

    No matter what I'm doing, I do make sure to take my time to eat. I can stop to savor the food and go back and forth doing that and doing my computer stuff, reading, or enjoying TV. Eating fast can be habit no matter what we're doing and we can reduce that habit in most circumstances. That will go a long way to making meals feel more satisfying.
    1484 days ago
    1485 days ago
    you ar worth the effort, your husband might like it also. emoticon
    1485 days ago
    How do those habits get a hold of us?
    1485 days ago
    Well I thought I was reading about me. I think your idea seems wonderful. I am going to try it. I am going to have to pray my husband to the table. emoticon
    1485 days ago
    yes my husband and I both sit on the coach and eat our meal; I will have to clear off the table so we can have formal meals sounds like bonding time
    1485 days ago
    You hit so many nails on the head here. I am guilty of eating breakfast in front of the computer. I love to read while I have lunch. DH and I do eat dinner together but we are watching the news at the same time! I definitely need to work on this.
    1485 days ago
    Yeah, we're not supposed to multitask while eating.
    Still, I always do...
    Not enough "me" time?
    1485 days ago
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