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Insecurity in a Key Relationship

Sunday, March 23, 2014

Did you ever have one or two of those days when you were feeling particularly insecure? I'm not talking about weight, but just about who you are and whether or not a certain person likes you or cares about the things that are important to you? From yesterday till today I was around a bunch of family members. I found myself reacting internally over several reactions and comments I received from one of these very special people. I normally feel fine around her and we usually don't treat each other in this weird way, but as I talked to my hubby about it in tears later, after she left, he pointed out that she is a very insecure person and most likely she is having some of those insecurities come out, which happened to be very untimely since I was also feeling insecure.

Several times, when I felt stressed today, I just left the room discreetly, and went into my bedroom and did 1 to 2 minute planks. Once I added 40 squats. This is a MAJOR change from my usual chow down tactic I usually partake in for this kind of stress. Now I'm still in a dangerous time frame. The binge can come later the night when stressors are eliminated, or even the next day. Tonight I went out for a quick walk to help with the stress relief. But still feeling unsettled so I wrote a quick blog. My plan is to get absorbed in reading my current paperback I'm reading.

I have to get through this, but I also need to figure out how to offer others the security in my love that they need while I'm struggling to feel accepted and loved by them.
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    I LOVE the way you handled yourself here. That is very inspiring!

    1486 days ago
    Love that you used exercise instead of binge eating! I'm an emotional eater as well, so I get it. I never thought of using exercise instead. Great tip!
    1488 days ago
  • KANOE10
    You are doing so well..going off to do planks and squats..and then later taking a walk. Plus escaping in a book is also an excellent stress reliever. I think when you get some rest and some distance from the event, you will start finding ways to deal with this insecure person. You have done an excellent job of not turning to food.

    1489 days ago
    I think we all have times like this
    1489 days ago
    Insecurities can pop up when we least expect it. It's easier when we realize the emotion for what it is and then move on. Good job!
    1489 days ago
  • POPSY190
    Your husband has hit the nail on the head! It's hard not to care too much about these things. But I think it's a bit like reading. Sometimes I just can't get into a book; months later I can't put it down.The difference is nothing to do with the book - it's just my frame of mind at the time. So you and your friend just hit a bad moment for both of you!
    Excellent to distract yourself from the binge instinct. Both writing and exercise are good for this. Sometimes I use housework or a shower for the same purpose. emoticon
    1489 days ago
    Ooops, I can offer no answer. I'm so so sorry. However, I can praise you for the healthy manner (planks) in which you did handle it! It's far from the binging of your past! Super job!

    Be blessed and persevere!
    1489 days ago
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