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Wednesday, March 19, 2014

"The Healing Power of Rituals"

Another way to build emotional safety is to create habits or rituals that help you feel more settled. Rituals include any designed patterns or series of activities that serve a purpose that help you feel calm and energised. Rituals help you feel emotionally safe because they allow you to draw on familiar things and activities rather than constantly having to think up new ones. Look at the patterns you already have in place, such as, getting a cup of coffee before you start work or maybe you greet friends before you start church or work. When you get home from work do you usually get the mail, let out the dog or cat and go for a walk before cooking dinner or spending time with family. Then you have already created a few rituals for yourself.

Think about your current rituals, do any of them involve food? You may need to replace some of these with healthier patterns for times when you want to relieve stress, calm down or relieve your emotional needs. You could exercise, read a book, listen to music or do some writing. You could also meditate and light candles and read the bible or a prayer book!

When you travel you can plan ways to make yourself feel more at home. Bring your own tea along, your photos of family and your favourite slippers. Recreate a ritual from when you are at home!

-Create a Ritual or Pattern you can use when you need to feel more settled or relaxed.
-In your journal describe where you will go, what you will do and what items you'll use for your special time. Maybe it involves having your morning cup of tea by a sunny window or creating a special romantic dinner.
-At some point today, use a ritual that helps you feel nurtured, calmed or energised.

It became a cooler today but a little less windy. I took a little nap earlier and did laundry, breaking down some boxes, took out the trash, made dinner, cleaned up from that, did exercise, changed the bedding, played with the cat since he was in the mood for it and he is doing well with less food. He is starting to look better now. I didn't get out to run errands but tomorrow I will do that part and maybe go to the park and go up the mountain. I want to take pictures of the spring flowers finally but when I have tried my sneezing gene kicks in here since the winds have been a bear for a week. The winds should die down tomorrow according to the news.

Its nice to be off work and be slightly less regimented. Gives me time to write, enjoy the sun more, kick back a little and appreciate life a little more. Not that you don't appreciate life when you are working its just a lot nicer when you aren't constantly having to do something for someone else. Helping others is nice, it gives you a paycheck, you can afford to eat sometimes, you can get what you need for your family and all that but it would be nice to have holiday like some European countries do. This year I'll have 6 weeks holiday time total so seniority and working is quite nice.

On April 10th is the last day of 100 Days! The finish line is near. I think after Writing Diet and 100 Days no more Book recording for a long while. These past few months were very informative though which gives you the tools to handle a variety of situations. I think with 100 Days Spangle could have combined a few days and made it 50 days but I think breaking up topics into short bullet points may have been the better format after all. So one can put into practise easily different areas of concern.

I have had a little too much soda this week and I figured out why. I need to get more tea true. However, the carbonation is giving me a thrill so I need to figure out an alternative to vanilla root beer. The sugar is quite bad along with the having the soda in the first place. I'm usually better at not having soda but my issues will be relieved tomorrow, or later today since its Wednesday morning now. I read the Target ad Sunday and I saw Reese's Peanut Butter eggs were on sale. I actually was seriously considering getting those little devils and then I reminded myself, you cannot have them, addicted. They are just peanut butter cups in disguise. I have to watch out for that in the next few days. I don't need the sugar or the calories, save them for good food. Conscious eating~
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    Happy Spring! Hope you are having an awesome vacation! emoticon
    1494 days ago

    1495 days ago
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    Marsh mellow rabbits, and candied eggs, or moth balls are my down fall. I know they are calling me every time I go into a store. I would love to think that I could but some, and only eat one. But I know that's not reality.
    1496 days ago
    Glad you are enjoying your time off, that a real vacation! emoticon
    I have so many rituals that I tend to live in auto-pilot and that is not good. When I do something that is not in the programmed mode it's tough. I often fail to look at the settings on the washing machine before loading it full of clothes and it's a problem after my DH washes just his Karate Gi on the lowest setting. In addition to wasting water and soap, the clothes are half clean and poorly rinsed. I end up doing them all over again. I also tend to drive the same direction a lot and when I need to change that direction I forget????
    I also have rituals that are unhealthy such as eating nuts after dinner. I eat a lot of vegetables and fruits which leave me still feeling hungry. I grab for the nuts and it's often, while I am doing something where I am preoccupied, which is not a good combination. One of my rituals is munching on carrots, which is a good one. I also love to read when I have time and the best one is Sparking on SP.


    1496 days ago
    You've given me a lot to think about in your posts, thanks! Rituals are so comforting to me, I try to have them in many areas of my day. emoticon
    1496 days ago
    Good choice! It's amazing how fast our mind goes to the addiction. I almost slipped yesterday and caught myself.
    1496 days ago
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