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About that word "NO"- it has a purpose!

Tuesday, March 11, 2014

I started this post on the Spark 'Fitness and Exercise' forum, where someone asked a great and honest question about how to make yourself a priority more often.

What I wrote on the forum was that one way to make yourself a priority for yourself is to get comfortable with telling other people "NO" more often.

Not trying to be mean; just being honest, and trying to be more fair - to ourselves!

Often (daily?), this is a women's issue. Most of us already are over-commited. So we have to find - or create - ways to open up a bit more time for OUR needs and interests. Not just "some of the time," but regularly. Some things we need daily, some weekly, other things monthly, seasonally, or yearly, and so on. Even if it's only for 10-15 minutes. But sometimes this needs to be 10 or 15 days, and some things 10 or 15 months!! LOL!

A lot of us have no problem saying "NO," but only to ourselves. As women, many of us do this far too often. That doesn't seem very balanced. Self-denial has its limits, and we can learn to say "no" to others with love and respect for them and for ourselves.

When we don't say "no" enough, sometimes the spirit, mind or body will do it for us! And, sometimes, with little or no warning! Usually we call this a crisis.

I learned there are 1440 minutes in a 24-hour day. Let's invest more of those in ourselves, and keep and use, for us, a bit of the 'money' in our daily, weekly, monthly, seasonal, and yearly time banks.

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    1468 days ago
    Thanks so much, everyone, for reading my blog, and sharing your comments. Glad you found it useful! - MsBootcamp emoticon
    1498 days ago
    I have been a master of saying "No" for years! I agree with you saying no to someone or something is not being mean or selfish, it's being truthful. It is better to give someone an honest NO, than a sacrificial YES, meaning saying yes and then being miserable because you really didn't want to do whatever it was they asked you to do in the first place. I did that for years until I realized sacrificing myself didn't do anyone any good. We were all happier if I was truly happy. I also learned that when you tell people no, they might be upset at first, but if they are really, truly a good friend and care about you, they will understand and get over it. If they can't or won't understand, then, you are probably better off without them anyway. One last thing, people will always go to the person they know will say yes first, you're the easiest target, once you start saying no, they will find another easy target. Bottom line, To Thine Own Self Be True!
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    1499 days ago
    This is fantastic! This bit really caught me: "When we don't say "no" enough, sometimes the spirit, mind or body will do it for us! And, sometimes, with little or no warning! Usually we call this a crisis." That is SO true.

    And the last paragraph is a wonderful eye-opener. I love little facts like that.
    1499 days ago
    So true! And remember that when you say 'No' you are giving somebody else the chance to say 'yes.'
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    Thanks, NatP!!
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