Berating yourself is damaging.
Sunday, March 09, 2014
I saw the following image recently on a Facebook post of someone who wants to lose weight:
I too was dissatisfied with my health and fitness, in the beginning. And there was some self loathing going on. But I have a different perspective now, and feel compelled to say something about these sorts of messages.
"Beating" and "taking down" my former self wasn't productive, because eventually I'd get tired of being yelled at and criticized, and that would lead to giving up and regaining whatever weight I'd managed to lose. That former self was still part of me, so this attitude just continued the cycle of self-abuse and poor self-esteem that contributed to my weight in the first place.
I've made more personal progress by being kind and understanding of my former self than castigating her. She had her reasons for the choices she made.
And then one day that brave woman chose to make fitness a priority in spite of her flaws. I owe her everything, because if she hadn't done that I wouldn't have my current life and health.