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My Nephew's Wedding

Thursday, March 06, 2014

I didn't make it to my goal to get back to 150 lbs. before nephew's wedding next weekend. In fact, I didn't get close. I did lose about 8-10 lbs. (depending on the day), and that is a good thing....better than watching the scale climb and climb. But I am still at least 15 pounds from my goal but as always, I am a work in progress. Some days are better than others. My worst temptation right now is nuts. I buy them for Du, they're supposed to be healthy and good for limited quantities. At least that's what I hear, Dr. Oz is always talking up the NUTS. Limited quantities is my problem. But I'm working on it.

I did buy a new dress for the wedding, even though I have lots of pretty clothes in my closet that I never wear now that I'm retired. I don't have many dresses, however, and I thought this occasion called for a nice dress. I had always wanted a LBD (Little Black Dress), so found one at

I'll try to get a picture of ME in the dress at the wedding and post it later.

The dress has a blousy/elasticized waist and long sleeves, which helps disguise a couple of my problem areas. I looked in the stores, but there are few long-sleeved dresses out there, most of them are sleeveless. I noticed at the Academy Awards the other night, most of the older ladies (my age...60+) wore sleeved gowns. The arms must be the first to go, of course in my case, my arms took the brunt of the weight loss, in that loose skin hangs from them, and it is hideous. In fact, this dress I got on-line, has those peek-a-boo sleeves, you know the ones that are slit, from shoulder to cuff. I tried it on, and decided I would tack the sleeve together at the elbow just to make sure I didn't expose my awful upper arms accidentally if the slits happen to fall open. I just took a couple stitches and anchored my threads well, hopefully it will hold. I did notice, from the short time I worked on the dress while sitting in my chair, it is now covered with Bulldog hair. It's amazing how that little short-haired dog can shed! WOW! I bought black undergarments, and some black panty hose to wear with my new LBD. I know hose aren't worn anymore, but with my varicose veins and loose skin, they are a necessity in my case. I'm considering wearing my very low heels, at least to the wedding ceremony. I may change to my flats for the reception. I don't walk well in any kind of heels. I found a spanx-type full-length slip at Target. It was expensive ($42--for me--that's pricy for a slip!), but I think it will do a good job of firming me up underneath my LBD.

My youngest son, Chris is an usher at his cousin's wedding and my two granddaughters are flower girls. I can't wait to see them all "dolled up" for the event, I already posted pictures of the DGD's in their dresses....they are adorable, although Amber confided in me that the dress is "kinda itchy." Hopefully they will leave them on all night. Maybe their moms can find some kind of slip to wear underneath that will protect their skin from an itchy dress.

My nephew and his fiance are a lovely couple. They have dated for years, since high school, and he is just six months older than my Chris, they are both 28, so high school was 10 years ago. My sister-in-law (my nephew's mom) is my husband's youngest sister. She was the flower girl at our wedding (she was only 6 when we got married).

Although she is mother of the groom, from what I hear from her, it sounds like she is doing a lot of the work usually done by the mother of the bride. She has five boys, so I guess it's nice that at this wedding of her (oldest) boy, she gets to be an active participant. When my two oldest sons got married, the bride and their moms did most of the planning and I just stepped back and enjoyed it all, although I did go bridal and attendant dress shopping with one of my future daughters-in-law, which was fun. I am really looking forward to sitting back and enjoying another family wedding in a week or so!

I am now the proud holder of tickets to THREE upcoming concerts. At the end of March, Du and I are going to see Bill Maher (Politically Incorrect) in concert. Du is a big fan of Bill's show on HBO, and I tolerate Bill's outrageous opinions. I know most of it is for comedic effect. Carlos Santana will be in town in June, he is touring with Rod Stewart. That should be another great concert, and it will be our first opportunity to see the new Pinnacle Arena, which we helped build with a small tax on our bill every time we go out to eat. My daughter-in-law and I are going to the Katy Perry concert at the same Pinnacle Arena in August. For a person who doesn't go to many concerts anymore (back in the day....we attended lots and lots of concerts, but not so much anymore), I am excited about the prospect of hearing some wonderful music (and outlandish opinions)! As I have spoken about here before, Du discovered a song by Santana called "Hold On," and the lyrics truly speak to our situation--we adore the music as well.

Carlos Santana is a gifted guitarist/musician, and I can't wait to hear what he has to offer to his Lincoln audience next June. Rod Stewart ain't bad either!!

Katy Perry became a favorite when I discovered her song, "Firework." In fact, when NBC asked if I had a tune I would like used when they introduced me on the Today Show in Nov. 2012, I picked "Firework," Granddaughter Amber calls that song, "Grandma's song," to this day. They have my TV appearance saved on their DVR, and my son tells me that they watch it quite often, even after more than a year. Have I mentioned lately how much I adore my grandchildren???

It's shaping up to b a wonderful year, now if I can just keep Du healthy long enough to enjoy all these upcoming events. We have put off our trip planning, however, until we go back to the Cancer Treatment Center in April. Scans there will tell us how Du is doing. We may have to postpone trips, if other treatment is called for or if there are other circumstances. I can see a perceptible down-turn in Du's health, even though it is very gradual. Walking and getting up from a seated position is getting harder, and he has little energy. Of course he is still working full-time and I understand how that saps his energy so that he has little left when he gets home. He suffers from being so cold, especially after he eats dinner at night, that he literally shakes. He has to run from the kitchen table into the family room, where he covers up with a new very warm blanket I got him for Christmas and tries to warm up. His latest UTI seems to be clearing up thanks to the antibiotics the ER prescribed, but I know it will just come flaring back very soon. It makes me so sad to see this slow, inevitable march into illness. I have dreaded it for so long and it scares me to see it happening. I want to delay it for as long as possible.

I am headed to the GI Dr. this afternoon. I hope he can give me some answers to these stomach cramps that continue to bother me. It is a mystery, but it sure hurts. Right now, and for the last few days, I have felt great. This always makes me think that I am finally well, and then I get another bout with the debilitating cramps. Hopefully I can find some answers somewhere.
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  • LINDAK25
    Have a great time at the wedding!
    1936 days ago
    That dress is sure to be a knockout! And to score tickets to those concerts is fantastic!
    1937 days ago
    Can't wait to see the LBD!
    1937 days ago
  • CANNIE50
    If I cared about fashion "rules" I would own skinny jeans and stilettos and I don't and won't. I am glad to hear you are wearing what you feel good in, and comfortable in. I, too, love the Katy Perry song "Firework" - I like a lot of her music now that she is out of her "teenage cupcake" period. How fun that you are going to her concert - cannot wait to read your review! I am no doctor but when I read about those awful stomach pains that dog you so, I often wonder if it is gallbladder attacks or gastritis or pancreatitis but I am assuming they ruled all those out. You poor thing - I SO hope they can fix it and SOON! Take care!!!!
    1937 days ago
  • THEVOW2013
    emoticon You lost weight and you are doing great follow up with your new lifestyle and celebrate your weight loss with a non food reward...loving yourself before hitting goal is just as important as making your goal!
    1938 days ago
  • KERRYG155
    I am really sorry those cramps are still bothering you. I sure hope they can get it figured out one of these days. I'm glad you found something for the wedding. Enjoy it all. As for the concerts, Larry and I paid a fair amount of that tax on our last two trips to Lincoln!! lol One day we'll have to go see the arena ourselves. I think Larry and I need to get to some more concerts-we've always enjoyed them and I do enjoy going with my friend Carol but it would be nice having things to do with my husband. And speaking of him-he had his breathing test the other day and he has lost 10% more of his breathing capacity. He has to go back in a couple weeks plus has to have treatments on his leg veins-they are trying to push blood both ways. Another reason we should get out and do things together NOW. Sorry, I shouldn't be venting about my husband. You enjoy the kids, grandkids, and the wedding as well as your concerts!
    1938 days ago
    Great to hear an update from you. Good to know that you and DU and you by yourself are getting out and enjoying life right now. I was wondering, and I am no expert and know nothing about this, if you have tried Gluten free? I have read others blogs about how it has cleared up so many stomach issues for them. I really don't know much about it and some Dr.s poopoo it but maybe worth a try? Hope it works out somehow.

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    1938 days ago
    Love the LBD! Good luck with the Dr's.

    Funny how someone's wedding takes you back to your own. Beautiful!

    mother's Fitness Club, co-lead
    1938 days ago
  • -RUBIES-
    I know I've said it before, but, I just love your blogs. They are like reading a good book... read a chapter, close the book, read another chapter, close the book. :)

    Sounds like you have some fun filled events ahead of you. Good for you and Du. You actually encouraged me to proceed in buying concert tickets that I had been contemplating about. I think I am going to do it now. Life is precious and sometimes we can get so caught up and forget to simply enjoy it. See... you lit a fire under me! You truly are a "firework"!

    Enjoy all the fun and family times coming your way.
    1938 days ago
    I don't care what "fashion" says is in at the moment or not, since that will change from week to week it seems. I will continue to wear pantyhose and whatever else looks good on me, no matter what they say!
    Used to be you weren't supposed to wear white after labor day, but now it's okay, and you were supposed to match your purse to your outfit. I never did follow those rules either. As far as I was concerned, if they didn't make sense, they didn't have a part in my life.
    1938 days ago
    Sounds like a wonderful spring and summer for you! Concerts are so enjoyable. I also love Santana, and it's nice to know he shares his wealth with charities.

    Even though they're out of fashion, I like to wear hose when I wear a dress. Since I am so close to my goal weight, I found a thrilling NSV...I don't have to struggle to get them on with the "Pantyhose Dance!" They slip on as easily as my jeans.

    Best wishes! emoticon
    1938 days ago
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