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Friday, February 28, 2014

A month ago my 31-year old nephew came out to me. He also told my older brother and his own parents. His mother, my sister, did not take it well and they have not spoken since. I have met his partner and they are good together. I know Jason has been looking for someone to share his life and he has found someone who shares the same interest in travel and adventure. I feel happy for him. And to be honest, I was not surprised when he told me.

This weekend my family is planning a big dinner to be held at our house. I wanted Jason to come and bring his SO so others can met him. To me he is now part of the whole family. Jason is still under the assumption that the rest of the family will respond like his mother did. I've told him over and over that I doubt anyone will care. He is still the same person we've loved for 31 years so why would anything change. Anyway he won't come until I talk with my sister Sue and break it to her. She is his 'testing ground' for how the rest of the family will respond. This puts a lot of pressure on me. Why do I have to deliver the news? How does one even bring up the subject?

Sue and I are going to an auction together tomorrow morning. The dinner is Sunday afternoon. I think tomorrow will be a good time. We discuss all sorts of stuff at auctions. People watch, have a good time. I think I can do it. I also think she won't give a rat's patootie either. But I will do this because I know it is important to him and I want our family to go on being the wonderful family we always have been.

It is weird, when I met his SO I could hear my mother's voice in my head - "What's the big deal? It's like getting another grandson for free." Yup, I'm getting another nephew for free.
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    emoticon Hope the dinner goes well and everyone welcomes J and his SO.
    1546 days ago
  • POPSY190
    There are a couple of similar couples in my own family and I can't say it makes any difference. They are still the same people. Personal relationships are exactly that and should not be a concern for others. Hope the dinner goes well and that all attend!
    1547 days ago
    I don't think it will be difficult for you to break the news to Sue. Who knows? Like you, she may not even be surprised. I hope his mother comes round. I suppose if she never suspected it, she has to do a lot of mental readjustments.

    You and your family sound great!
    1547 days ago
    You can always just bring up how you are looking forward to seeing everyone at the dinner and maybe how you hope that Jason's SO won't feel overwhelmed and see how she reacts.

    Good luck. It can be a difficult situation.
    1547 days ago
    Awww. That's really sweet. Praying for you when you have the talk with your sister.

    I'm happy you like your nephew's SO.

    Hope all goes well so when you have your big dinner everything will be peachy keen.

    God bless you!

    1547 days ago
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