Thank you, Sparkers, for common courtesy.
Monday, February 24, 2014
A friend shared a link on Facebook to a blog about the latest Victoria's Secret catalog. I found most of it to be humorous - such as her points that it's uncomfortable to be chasing after kids with your butt cheeks hanging out, and that you need to stand in certain poses all day - DON'T MOVE - or else whatever isn't already "out there" will soon be.
However, more than once, the author referred to these VS models who "starve themselves" to look this way. I thought the piece would have been just as funny without those zingers; maybe even funnier, because talking about weight clearly evokes strong emotion in people. At 5'4" and 125 pounds, I wonder why some people feel the need to tell me, out of the blue, that I'm too skinny and need to put some meat on my bones. I look nothing like a supermodel and I eat like a horse. I run, but not a tremendous amount - usually between 25-35 miles per week, and it averages to about an hour of exercise per day.
So then I scrolled down to the comment section of the blog. Most of the comments were about her references to eating habits; with people waging war on both sides. Now, I think each side had valid points.
1) There are plenty of people who are healthy, fit and thin.
2) There are plenty of people who are healthy, fit and not as thin.
3) Human beings are all shaped differently.
However, there was no civil discussion to be had about this. Some were saying things like "you must be lazy and stuffing your face with Girl Scout cookies while your husband cheats on you" and others saying things like "a woman built like a 15yo boy isn't attractive." Of course, there were plenty of "sentence enhancers" thrown in (as SpongeBob calls profanity), as if that helps to make a point.
It made me very thankful for SparkPeople, where the discussions and comments I've seen have always been courteous. I left that other blog without commenting, as I did not feel like throwing myself into the ring.