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Friday, February 21, 2014

For those that took time out of their lives yesterday to acknowledge my grief and loss, I want you to know how overwhelming it was for me.

Just the fact that so many people even wrote to me about this, ONE WORD meant so much.. it made me cry..
You have no idea what your show of concern did for me. I worked on the oncology floor for years and am no stranger to death,,, even friends and relatives deaths, BUT to have others reach out and truly mean what they write, allows me to feel that you all have been through something akin to this pain.. or worse.
Leo always shared his kids funny stories, was a very quiet man,, his wife is very loud, controlling and matriarchal.. Leo was a Navy vet who never bragged or showed any vanity..He just laughed and enjoyed being around people that did not boss him around.. workplace was his respite from a mentally ill son and wife..

I must tell you all what I told his son today, who is also a very dear friend of mine..

It was the first time Tommy saw me since Leo died. I went in the office and gave this 6'5" man a big hug.. told him it was going to be okay,eventually.. he began to sob openly, almost cracked my rib hugging me so hard..
we talked, then i went back to work.
I told him that I talk to my Dad daily and that he would too..
Later, before I went home, I told him I talked to Dad and asked him to take Leo under his "WING" and show him the ropes up there, since my dad died March 10, 2000. He could show Leo around and they could swap Navy stories..(Dad was a navy vet too.)
Tommy loves my sense of humor , so I knew this would help him feel better about the loss...

humor has to be injected in tense, painful situations to help us cope, to bring us back to the reality that is our life..
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    super reaching out to Leo's son during your time of shared loss.
    1523 days ago
    This is so true about the humor. I'm so happy you have such fond memories of Leo. It was really nice you went and hugged his son. I'm sure he feels that you understand. I'll be praying for you and your family and for Leo's family during this difficult time.
    I think I can safely say we've all known someone with cancer, it's so prevalent anymore. Thank you for what you do at work.

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    I so agree with you about the humor. My dad was always the one that would inject the humor in the most somber occasion and it was ALWAYS appreciated. Good for you to be the one in this case, Tommy will ALWAYS remember you for it.

    Leo sounds like the kind of guy that will be missed for a long, long time.

    You were right, it will get better but will always be "different".

    God Bless
    1523 days ago
    It is hard to lose one, but when we know they are home, it makes it easier!
    1523 days ago
    What a beautiful thing for you to do! I lost my Dad when I was 11 years old. I still remember the life lessons he taught me in the brief timespan, and yes, still talk to him occasionally.

    Dad was an Army Vet but I bet he could help swap some military stories too.

    1523 days ago
    So glad that Leo is home with Jesus. I lost both of my parents and picture them together, well and happy again. Not sure what heaven is like, but I know our loved ones are happy there and that is all I need to know!
    I do hope the family members are doing okay. I'm sure you are a blessing to them. Take care, Eileen
    1523 days ago
    This blog touches me deeply and brings me to tears. My beloved brother, John, died from bone cancer at age 40. He was the best brother anyone could have. He was a gentle, kind-hearted man, always helping others--- and John, also a Navy vet, --- just might be welcoming dear Leo to the glorious grandeur of Heaven!
    Yes, humor helps us through the painful trials of life.
    Sending hugs to comfort you!
    1523 days ago
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